Knowledge is power.....the reasons females deny shit tests exist is because males knowledge of them can collude their evolutionary strategy of finding a@@sholes to breed with.

So in the name of mankind, and civilization, let's help each other out. I'll get it started with one of my failures we can learn from, and list what the correct path should have been (opinions welcome)

Let's focus on bigger frame tests as opposed to token shit tests like are you a player

These are pre-bang tests......of the pass and bang or fail and go home variety

example 1) Cold approach at a bar. I approach run a cocky playful game the target is laughing convo going bantering and several times she calls me a narcissist....I just transitioned and didn't acknowledge it and honestly didn't care other than thinking that's a little different (narcissist is a good thing, but I didn't immediately recognize it because it's much harsher word than cocky and no one says it, but if she said cocky I would of known it's a good signal from a women perspective who is currently bantering with you.) At the same time I definitely did not take it as a bad comment during this time of the interaction just thought normal banter whatever.

I keep this set going an hour in.....we bounce inside to the inside bar...anyways she puts her first and last name inside my phone at some point and a little later she asks me if I have facebook. I say no I do not have facebook (I honestly don't I was answering honestly) she immediately thinks I'm lying and her emotion spikes and starts repeating narcissist narcissist narcissist and then then in a very much different tone louder angrier exlamation of narcissist and then just leaves from where her and I are standing in the bar. I don't even know where she went.....and yes am thinking I lost the set she just left. I was like damn so I started hitting on some other random chicks although I didn't get anywhere at all..was walking around some more and then see her like 25 feet from where I was the last time I with her. She is with her friend just kind of standing or semi slowly half dancing in a corner. They were looking away from me kind of cold faced no emotion. Arms maybe even crossed on the one I was talking too. But when I see them I just don't approach or re-engage I exit the bar. Then I texted "I'm sorry if I'm a narcissist" or something to that affect......I was thinking I perhaps was legitimately was coming across as being over the top dickhead and she just left because of that. It really didn't cross my mind that she was just testing me...it was a hard core tone and very set in stone test of "are you a man or not".

Long story short I even bothered with a follow up text few days later , nothing. It was obviously a failed test. But this girl was into me I have no doubt that night.

What the correct plan of action to do would of been to fist more soundly address the token shit test of her calling me a narcissist, I totally ignored it but didn't address it and say "so what do you like about narcissist so much smile :).

But that wasn't what did me in.......the major shit test is what did. I should have found her when she walked away and gone back up to her from behind and put my arms around her and taken ownership of her (I wasn't real physical that night so that also might of brought on this major shit test as well)....then whispered in her ear "it's your favorite little narcissist". This would of led to subsequent banging. I am sure.

I have a few more failures to list. Anybody else ?