Lesson learned; I am weak.

-Anteros- · 2016-01-02T18:50:05+00:00

Cheer up, kid. The good news is that you're not "weak" just misguided.

Someone put the idea into your head that you should be in a relationship at the age of 20. You should not. Nor should you be looking at relationships as transaction based interactions. People don't really work this way, but it is a useful metric to imbue readers with Sexual Market Place functionality.

Lessons are transmissions of facts, you behaved in a weak way. Its a learning experience and you should learn then move on. Right now, you should be sleeping with as many young women as you can, this will (likely) grant you with enough experience to understand where women are coming from when they are in relationships and why they do things like your ex did. To someone who has the requisite amount of experience (usually comes after 25 lays) the things you describe in your post are blaring signals for you to downgrade her or at very least; stop promoting her over other girls of higher quality.

Long story short, wait until you are at least 25 years old and have slept with at least 25 women before you even consider starting a relationship with any girl. If/when you decide to do this, spin plates/hold tryouts for girls that you select based on your experience with women.

Dustin_Bromain · 2016-01-02T20:31:39+00:00

You're 20 years old man. Fuck relationships for right now. Lift, dress well and pick up a little game. Only plate women right now. Use your anger in the gym and make those gains.

MattyAnon · 2016-01-02T19:05:20+00:00

. I've always let girls give me boundaries.

It's hard when you're 20. The SMV gap dating girls your own age means they know who holds all the cards, you know who holds all the cards, and you've been trained since birth to defer to women. Not only that, all girls are ready to condemn you for giving anything less than 100% to the girl currently nearest to you.

Things get better in time - your SMV goes up a lot, theirs goes down a bit, you know better how to handle their hypergamic instincts (ie not letting yourself be a stepping stone to reassure her that she can do better)

But never forget how women will treat you if you let them.

winstrol · Sat Jan 2 22:39:34 2016 UTC

Listen to yourself man you fucked her you should be proud. The problem is you got emotionally invested. I made this mistake myself but i quickly learned that instead of staying over,holding hands,kissing good bye after leaving creates a "relationship". Don't do these things. Fuck her & chit chat as you get dressed & leave. I love doing this as im getting dressed i do it slowly to show off my body as i talk to her about something. This create the illusion that you dont care about the morning sex & she sees how attractive you are. I can always gurantee she will booty texting me within days if shes talking to me as im getting dressed and eye fucking me.

zuperfly · 2016-01-03T16:14:36+00:00

Don't forget to accept your feelings. We know you've been sad, because we all were.

WD_Elvis · 2016-01-03T07:09:51+00:00

my girlfriend cheated on me yesterday and had just started putting boundaries down like that hardcore... for the past month. Jesus christ mind blown so is compromising on stuff revoke the TRP man card in the relationship?

EscortSportage · 2016-01-03T11:24:40+00:00

You are so young all this will be a funny joke in 3-5 years. Don't sweat it man, trust me. Keep on doing what you do, school, job, lift weights, read books

Women come and go like money. Just make sure to keep money around longer.

sqerl · 2016-01-03T18:58:23+00:00

I let a girl put rules on our relationship. I've always let girls give me boundaries.

If she doesn't give you what you want, you don't have to give her what she wants. Ever.

This is a lesson and transformation I went thru as well. Makes me happy you're learning this so young..... and as others have said, you're not weak, just learning :)

DarkuSchneider · 2016-01-02T22:20:28+00:00

Read the book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' you need to learn how to set boundaries of your own. Here is a good reading list sir, good luck. http://illimitablemen.com/books-for-men/

DaBaulz · 2016-01-03T02:22:02+00:00

I don't see how any of that makes you weak? You meet a girl, you interact for a time, after a while it ends. The only weakness I see it the way it has effected you.

I work in a field where there are a lot of 'temporary' promotions. So like maximum 2-3 years in a new job, then You go back to your old job etc. So I see a lot of promotions come and go. Most people are annoyed, sad or angry when the promotion is over. But smarter people, people with wisdom, are thankful for the experience. Obviously those are the people we try a bit harder to get back.

Don't be sad its over, be thankful it happened at all. And work on your life so that the best thing about it isn't some chick.

Title	Lesson learned; I am weak.
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Date	January 2, 2016 6:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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