(Source: I've been reading TRP for a couple of years, and am doing OK/getting laid.)

#The Importance of Nexting: the most important tool you have to finding the girl that wants you right now.

The time we have on this planet is finite; it's worth spending a few seconds/minutes opening a girl but if she's not interested, how important is it to move on immediately? I would say it's the most important thing in the world, because every minute you spend on her is keeping you from the next girl you actually end up with. It is possible to sink countless hours into a girl who is just not that interested. In my opinion, this is literally keeping you from reaching your next girl.

Not every girl would be interested even in a 10/10 guy. you can keep the opening going for a minute or two so she's comfortable, but if it's clear she's not interested, then every minute you're sinking into her is keeping you from your next girl.

If you go out at 9 p.m. on Friday and approach 30 people for 3 minutes, then spend 3 hours with a girl, and bring her home at 1 a.m., then let's break down what happened: every minute of time between 9 p.m. and 10:30 p.m. in this example was a valuable "next!" moment. In this case the right girl was girl #31, who you met at 10:30 p.m., 3 hours with, and then went home with.

What would have happened if you spent 20 minutes (instead of 3 minutes) with just 5 of the girls? That means you have 27 times 3 minutes and 5 * 20 minutes = 181 minutes, or three hours. Now it's 1 minute past midnight, and you missed the chance to get to girl #31. In fact, in this example, by midnight she is nearly going home with another guy. You'll pass them and they'll be shoulder to shoulder and you'll never guess they've been together for all of an hour and a half.

What if you don't ditch after 20 minute? You could spend 45 minutes to an hour with 1 or 2 girls only, and get the same results.

Every minute you're not nexting, you are sinking time that is keeping you from the girl who is right for you.

If you knew that you had a winning lottery ticket in the pile in front of you, but you only had 5 minutes to start scratching them, how long would you spend on each one? Just long enough to see if it's a winner.

Caveats: I think you shouldn't take the 3 minutes I mention to mean "15 seconds". Every girl will autoreject in the first 15 seconds. I think a casual indirect opening is better, and it is important to get a basic feel. Another caveat is that if you actually do this and find zero interest from 100 people (actually go ahead and count and reach 100) then maybe there's no winning ticket in the pile: you might have to improve your SMV, dress better, etc.

But the central point is this: if the girls who aren't interested are eating up your time, then you will never get to the ones who are. That's why it's called "getting lucky".

You can make your own luck, too.

Let's appreciate this important fact:

I'd like to take this thread as an opportunity for everyone to share some of the fast ejections (nexts) they've made that freed up enough time for them to get to the girl(s) they have now. For those of you who are "successful" with girls (have plates/a girlfriend you're happy with): how many girls did you next on the way there, and how? Could you still be talking with them (and they're still not interested), if you didn't know better?

Let's share this most important aspect of getting to the right girl. Let's talk about all the next's you wouldn't give a second thought to.