My relationship history pre-TRP has been consistently long-distance. I have been a serial one-itis guy that would catch the dreaded plague so bad that I would continue a relationship 500 miles away from a girl. Now this isn't a post of how I am some bitter cunt that "I found my girl cheating on me, lolwut, what went wrong?!" And I will preface this that I never really suspected any infidelity even though I am sure it happened to a certain degree.

I will start with what girls want with long distance: attention. I moved to California from Texas roughly half a year ago, I went single and in search to become a new man in a lot of different ways. About three months ago a friend called me up about how her BF just ghosted her after 5 years and an engagement. I've also always wanted to sleep with this friend of mine ever since grade school, so of course I went straight BP pussy mode trying to console her, answering every call or text she sent me. We kind of were dating long distance, not exclusive or ever even brought up that we were dating but we both felt it. She would send me nudey pics, tell me that when I would come back for Christmas we would have sex, etc.

Well I get to Texas for Christmas, and guess what, no sex. Not anything. I left, and no surprise, I get a huge apology that she was weird about it all, so on and so forth and that for Spring Break we will have a lot of fun if we go somewhere together. Same shit I was fed before, except this time I was deeper in TRP than before and I finally caught that all this was was bait to keep me on the line.

This is only one example of my previous BP long-distance relationships. But this most recent, less extreme case led me to finally realize what happened in my previous LD relationships. These girls were getting what was essentially FREE attention. The ultimate orbiter. I would call them every night, show them the attention they craved and the next day they would go out and get hit on by whoever, and of course being so far away I never knew anything about what was going on.

Now before I paint these women I dated in a terrible light, I think they were doing the best they could. They did legitimately love me (as much as a girl can genuinely love someone) and when we did see each other every month or so, they would be all over me. But what a small price to pay, it was like they had a monthly subscription to ZiggySmalls. Pay once a month and you will get all the long distance attention you need.

I don't want that last paragraph to be taken as me somehow trying to convince myself that this is alright, because it isn't. This is what this post is about, it is not alright to give a girl a ton of attention for such a small return. What I have been learning through TRP is that women and men have set up a "barter" system. Men give something to women they want and in turn women will give men something that they want. A mutual symbiotic relationship. However, society has allowed the women to set up a union called feminism. They have been able to lower the prices, they get more by paying less.

As we have swallowed TRP, we need to know our value, BUT we need to also realize the value of women. We all have different value and you have to be looking for that trade off. What are you willing to barter. The story I told earlier, I was paying with attention for sex. But this sex I never got because I gave her all the attention up front and when it came time to pay up she never did, and honestly I can't blame her. Why would you pay someone for something when you have everything they would pay for it already.

TRP is about learning how to become the best at bartering for the things you want and giving us as men the power back that we lost, whether you want more power, equal power, or less power than women is up to you, TRP only shows you how to do this.

"I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it."