Long time lurker. Swallowed the pill a while ago, but I still beta the fuck out when in the presence of a female I deem attractive.

VZPurp · 2013-04-06T19:54:40+00:00

Observe her flaws and take particular note of them mentally. It should lower her down from the pedestal you're putting her on.

Approach more. Practice really acclimates you to meeting and interacting with women. Open more people in general.

Your brain will eventually catch up, but not instantly.

quiet_wish · 2013-04-06T20:25:19+00:00

Gradual desensitization is the only real solution. Everything else is a waste of time.

HumanSockPuppet · 2013-04-07T07:52:25+00:00

Picture her naked, on her knees in front of you, and begging to suck your cock.

If you feel like you might accidentally let loose a villainous smile at that thought, let her see that smile, preferably while looking her directly in the eye.

NOW talk to her.

telnet_reddit_80 · 2013-04-06T20:37:35+00:00

Any brain hacks I can do to circumvent these fantastically irritating unconscious reactions?

It's a natural reaction. Spend time with less attractive chicks and then treat the more attractive ones the same. Alternatively, as a quicker fix, find something wrong with the more attractive one and focus on that.

You can also do what comedians do when they go on those late night talk shows, prepare a topic or three. Some funny observations that you can work into the conversation. Then you're just performing a bit.

extremelyderpyderp · 2013-04-07T00:31:20+00:00

this might sound stupid but it worked for me... all you have to do is think of her taking a shit :D This helps you realize that she's just a normal human being

ysef95 · 2013-04-07T16:51:37+00:00

meditate on the idea of 7 billion. There are way too many people in the world to give a shit about what one of them thinks.

[deleted] · 2013-04-06T22:23:23+00:00

It might have to do with rarity of those encounters, so if you increase your number of samples and encounters, that 'stunned' feeling or overwhelmed feeling (I still get it) will begin to decrease, once you realize how big of a market there is for someone who's interested in pursuing a woman. Soon, once you hang out with mega hotties, those girls you thought were attractive and stunned you will no longer get that reaction. Or just keep focusing on yourself.

When I find I'm distracted or overwhelmed from those looks, I just disengage from the conversation, with no excuses or explanations. Find that it somehow results in them being more interested, and once they show interest, for another odd reason I tend to lose interest. It's like once I realize I won the attraction, I go for other validation. The only validation that isn't easily met is my internal validation of what I do, since I hold myself to a higher standard each day.

zionController · 2013-04-07T22:33:11+00:00

no fap - you'll be so horny that all you'll wanna do is chat up babes

approach everyone - male, female, young old, just approach

3 second rule - if you don't approach within 3 seconds of seeing the person, write off the approach. You'll kick yourself the first few times, but you'll learn to just follow your dick after a while.

Kepaso · 2013-04-07T04:39:23+00:00

scarcity problem maybe. hang out with more girls, get used to it. It's like anything else in the world, ounce you are familiar with the subject, you are not afraid of it anymore.

Title	Long time lurker. Swallowed the pill a while ago, but I still beta the fuck out when in the presence of a female I deem attractive.
Author	RedMage45
Upvotes	12
Comments	9
Date	April 6, 2013 7:42 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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