TL;DR: Be the captain or she's gonna jump ship.

Could have been a long post but will keep it short. Want to know how to keep frame in a LTR? You make your image your reality.

You GET what you need to know. You shouldn't have to most of the time, and you need ground rules. You need to know yourself so well your confidence overrides her hypergamy. You know that you will know if she's fucking around. It's a non issue.

You MAINTAIN yourself. Good job. Good clothes. Good fucking attitude. Never compromise on your professional standing. You built this. This is your fucking magnum opus.

You NEVER stop lifting. Every bit of the post-RP man entering the relationship needs to be present in said relationship. Anything you shed once you're an 'item' is just you giving up that frame. She fell in love with every ounce of muscle you hauled in.

Guys, she loves you for who you are. It's true. That jacked, alpha motherfucker who just finished residency and is setting up private practice/going to law school/kicking ass in all he does. Make that alpha WHO you are, not WHO you WANT to be and you'll succeed. You need to be her captain or she's gonna jump ship…

….just her nature though, eh? Can ya blame her?