Is it possible to take a lesson in some activity (e.g., skydiving, skiing) with a woman while maintaining frame and alpha dominance? A male instructor in a situation like this naturally has the advantage: since he's experienced and doing the instructing, he comes across as confident, competent, and in control. You, a student, unavoidably need to be somewhat beta --- you need to allow the instructor to corect mistakes, make judgement calls on skills as you develop them, and gain experience. Isn't it a terrible mistake to bring a woman into a situation in which another man unavoidably ends up appearing to be the dominant alpha leader? It's even worse if she picks up the activity faster than you.