Marriage is not the problem

MagicGainbow · 2014-12-17T03:47:34+00:00

I can tell this kid really understands women. Good luck to him.

MagicGainbow · 2014-12-17T03:21:39+00:00

Being aloha is not guarantee if you are at your 'alpha limits' and she finds someone better, hell, look at relationships, we have wives leaving their husbands for absolute losers.

BeautyQuark · 2014-12-17T06:32:04+00:00

Disclosure: I have been married for 15 years, I am my wife's only, we were high school sweethearts.

Don't get married, it is simply not worth it. On the off chance you decide the risk is worth it, cash out towards the end of your peak like women. Honestly, why on earth would you wish to limit your options, unless you could marry a chaste virgin. Even that is no guarantee of a happy life.

(Field Report) I have passed on HB8-9's for my wife who is a HB7-8, I am an 8-10 depending on my weight. However, my wife still forgot reality even though I made her aware of my options. She still ended up in a solipsistic world of non-reality. She did not cheat but damn near destroyed our lives with drinking. I attribute non-cheating 100% to the fact that she was a virgin and I have always placed the divorce line on cheating. I would almost guarantee she would have cheated if she were not a virgin when we married.

I have had to get in better shape and am back up to a 8.5-9 while she is around a 7.5. I am working on getting as close to a 10 as I can. Right now, I get eye-fucked in front of her by 17-20 year old HB8/9's. I get stared at by women like I am a desert in front of her. They laugh and flirt anytime I talk to them while she is right by me. Over the years she has grown accustomed to this passive flirting from women. She has taken me for granted by disrespecting me, and is only sort of waking up to the fact I am just about done.

The ONLY thing that is repairing our marriage is pure unadulterated dread. I am having to actively flirt in front of her, and tell her I am planning on leaving her within months unless I approve of her progress.

This is not to say she is a bad wife. Most guys would be screaming from the roof tops with praise. Minus the drinking, and her selfishness she is a good wife. Sex is not an issue, she does damn near 100% of the housework, takes care of the kids day to day, and generally is a good person. However, she dresses up for others and dresses down for me. She lied openly on her drinking, and effectively nuked our lives because of it. Lies about spending money. Agrees to commitments without talking to me. Passively flirts without knowing it. Will not compromise on damn near anything. She has stayed home all 15 years and does not have a career. She places others' priorities ahead of me, even acquaintances. Overall, it is just a lack of respect. Honestly, that is my only issue with her, no fucking respect.

I am staying with her for my kids, and to fix my f'ups in my mental state. I have always been direct, and would describe my attitude as Alpha 80% Beta 20%. However, I never would have left her because of my kids, and the fact I could not see her suffer; my Beta was the BAD Beta. I have called out her crap 95%+ of the time, hence her need for lying. I have always caught the lying eventually(damn near photographic memory). She took advantage of long work hours, and drank because of childhood trauma. She would elevate anything she did not feel was correct and we would have a verbal war. I would end up losing because I would call her names, or walk away because I was feeling violent. I then would have to apologize and she would win.

We finally separated and I have my anger in check now. She is currently complaining about all of the things I was trying to prevent when we were fighting to the point of WW3. She Nuked our damn lives, I tried to stop it, and she kicked me out. I am now picking up all the pieces, and had to re-frame this shit into my frame. Read that again, I had to re-frame her kicking me out, into my frame. AWALT

How did I get my anger under control? Dread, Dread, Dread, and more Dread. I will walk out on her. I will hit on women. I tell her that shit is changing now, or I am gone. I felt hopeless because I would not leave her, and she knew this. I was pissed because she had the power. She knew this and abused the living shit out of it. It was pretty much my one fucking weakness. She exploited the crap out of it, she only had two boyfriends before me and I was her first. She is damn near a Porn Star/Joan Cleaver minus the cooking. That crap is not enough to overcome her being a spoiled brat that is disrespectful. She has always found a way to beat me down, and I have always had to re-frame. Dread has put her back in her place, and now she is starting to treat me almost perfectly. Which is the way I have always tried to treat her. So I ask, are you really wanting to run Dread on your wife for your entire marriage?

(RedPill Message) Have your fun enjoy life, and consider marrying in your late 40's early 50's (George Clooney has it right). Find a hot 20 something girl with a low n count. Make it clear you want a family with kids and she can have half your money. Iron clad pre-nup and straight-up contractual relationship. Make her aware every kid will be paternity tested, and divorce will follow any failures. This is a pure Dread, risk and reward setup. Quit bitching about hypergamy, and embrace the fuck out of it. Honestly, most men do not enjoy kids until their 50's, and that is as a grandparent. Why on earth would you not enjoy your Alpha Fucks, and then enjoy Beta Fucks with a nice contractual wife who has an incentive(Dread) to stay loyal for your Bucks.

alreadyredschool · 2014-12-17T10:18:26+00:00

You want to give away the power to walk away for free and say that is no problem?

Title	Marriage is not the problem
Author	soccerplusaviation
Upvotes	1
Comments	41
Date	December 17, 2014 3:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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