I was raised in a good family. Was a very shy kid, didn't start fights and was very respectful. My attitude when i was shown interest by a female was always polite acknowledgement and proceed to focus on school. Especially after my parents separated and I was raised only by my mother I was always told "respect woman" " respect woman's bodies" "no having a girlfriend, only when your gonna get married ." The last one is a complete oxymoron because you have to date someone in order to even consider marriage, But this was my mom's logic.

highschool was the definition of the nice guy. I thought that if I did everything right and was generous and caring then any girl I was interested in should like me too. WRONG. I didn't understand why girls liked the guys who treated them like shit. ( side note this one girl I was with in 12 grade said I love you , and I could never say it back so we ended)

This was the beginning of the transition. I realized the saying " YOU DON'T ASK A FISH HOW TO CATCH FISH" is too true. For ten years the only idea I had about how females should be treated had come from my mother, a female.

Then came college. went 3000 miles away from home to a top 40 school. Freshman year is like rookie season. I chose to go to a school with a lot of parties so I had plenty of chances to play the field. So every weeknd we d go out, id get a rejection and that shit hurt for like a day afterwards. I look back and realized I was talking to only one or two girls a night, so statistically my chances weren't good.

I was being so polite and these chicks didn't care.

My luck changed sophomore year. (Also I started smoking some tree occasionally ) I stopped giving a fuck. About any girl. They were all the same to me (As long as she was pretty). I was talking to maybe 6-10 girls a night when we went out. I was RUDE , I didn't care about their interests, I only bragged and talked about sex. The most important thing is that I STOPPED SMILING.

Don't smile unnecessarily and refrain from completely if possible when talking to girls, don't text Lol, lmao after risky texts, don't apologize. It's weakness and aversion, be stoic.

If u see a girl in the office or at starbucks Tell her u think she's cute and ur tryna talk to her later over text. If u see a girl at a party and the mood is casual tell her u wanna take her back to ur place. It's more important she takes you dead serious then it is that she finds you to be a good guy.

This worked for me. I had this fwb for a couple months and I treated her kinda bad. I told her we shouldn't get attatched and she agreed. I would blow off appointments, I would study instead of going to booty call, I wouldn't text her in days at a time. She was hooked. She went crazy literally begging me to come over. She said she had never " been told no to fuck by a guy , so he could study" and that it made her crazy about me. I didn't care. by this time I was making money from some side ventures and money was/ is all I care about.

I have just finished my junior year I'm 21. I have slept with a decent amount of girls, hooked up/ made out with infinite. I have never had a girlfriend. Girls don't want to be treated good, they want to be reassured that their mate is better than them. ALWAYS WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST .

the only girl I've "fell in love with" is this stripper that shook her vagina in my face in LA. She was bad as fuck and i would marry her with a prenup if I could cross paths with her again.

Edit** one philosophy I follow is from one of the original founders of VICE media (b4 it went to shit). He said you should approach at least one girl EVERY DAY. That way ur not self conscious anymore