This has been my most significant discovery since swallowing TRP a year ago, and I don't think it's discussed enough around here. I feel like this problem is way more common than we think among guys who have poor past experiences with women, especially early in life. Your limiting belief may be different than mine but the psychology is all the same. "Fake it till you make it" works, which is why you don't see this among the veterans here.

All my life, I've had a regular stream of missed opportunities with women. After TRP, they've started happening more and more thanks to higher SMV, better game, and being "out there" a lot more. Yet I have "selective approach anxiety." I have no problem approaching and aggressively escalating on a girl I'm questionably attracted to, but I freeze up and hesitate when it comes to a girl who I'm honestly attracted to. I've thought about it and traced it back to the first time I got rejected. I dwelled on it for far too long, and since I was young and impressionable, the notion that "I am not attractive" became a core part of my identity. Any experience that challenges that belief is met with subconscious skepticism, leading to missed opportunities which eventually turn into further evidence to support the belief that I'm not attractive.

I explained this to my very successful natural alpha "mentor," and he could not relate at all. He believes that he can get any girl he wants if he says and does the right thing. In fact, this belief spills over to other areas of his life: fitness, career, etc. The key to his success everywhere is that he has no "limiting beliefs," even if that's a totally irrational position to hold. He makes absolutely no excuses, and assumes fault for every failure. I think this is an ideal state to strive toward. Essentially, he combines a strong sense of responsibility with an absence of fatalism and a positive outlook. (By the way, speaking of early-life experiences, his first experience with girls was entirely positive).

In my humble opinion, the true definition of confidence with regards to game and women is actually not feeling nervous or anxious at all when approaching. What I've been doing since starting game is pushing through my uncertainty using my willpower, anticipating failure but going through with it anyways. This is "courage." Confidence means truly believing that you downright deserve to get in her pants, and you said something wrong if she says no. Confidence means getting entitled. By its nature, true confidence must be a little bit irrational.

In conclusion, here's some psychobabble: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201311/4-steps-release-limiting-beliefs-learned-childhood

Good Looking Loser also has an excellent section on what he calls "Entitlement" which is unfortunately lacking a dedicated article on how to actually go about developing it http://www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/fundamentals/confidence/sense-of-entitlement

TL;DR understand, be aware of, and stop dwelling on your old beliefs, act as if you're the shit, fake it till you make it.

(If anyone has any criticism or any relevant experience or resources, please post them. I'm still working through this at the moment.)

Edit: for good measure, this is the post that started me down this train of thought: https://archive.today/f459O