Need Advice

MattyAnon · 2017-07-15T14:52:44+00:00

. I am now 26 and have never had a LTR the l

A LTR is not the epitomy of male sexual success. A LTR is the consolation prize of the sexual marketplace. Don't aim for this - you are the prize, and aiming to get into a LTR is a killer for attraction, initially especially.

I approach them with a long term perspective with marrying them as the ultimate end

Do you aim a loaded pistol at your balls when you jerk off too?

I then always start obsessing about them

oneitis

, it took me close to 5 years to get over it, stalking her social media and such nonesense

WEAK

Now I am in this rabbit hole, trying to figure out what went wrong, analysing even the most minute things and trying to figure out what went wrong and how I could fix things, checking her social media and such.

Ok.

Forget long term and ESPECIALLY marriage, at least for now. Picture a world without words, without boyfriend-girlfriend agreements and without marriage contracts. Animals in the jungle if you like. No long term expectations or enforcements.

The only rules is attractiveness.... your Sexual Market Value in the Sexual Marketplace. This isn't 90% of initial dating, this is 100% of initial dating.

The trick to making things work in the medium term is to NEVER forget this.

NEVER fall back into "this is the one" or "we've found each other" or "soulmates" or "this works because we like each other".

Instead you stay attractive, you keep your options open, you don't expect from her anything more than you would from a random girl in the street. No past, no future, only today and your very recent history and very near term plans.

Women simply do not work over the long term - there is no repayment of anything you've done for her, and there is no effort put into the future. But she has limitless options - endless dick slapped into her face and offered to her.

She is fully present and participating in the Sexual MarketPlace whether you are or not. You have to step up and realise this.

When she's staring up at Chad's chiselled abs, do you think your shy little "I hope you are really my girlfriend" verbal agreement has any bearing at all? Of course not. Your only hope is that you rock her world so intensely that Chad doesn't measure up.

I tend to fall in the nice guy category but its just who I am

To be clear, "its just who I am" is really saying "I take no responsibility for developing as a man". It's like you want "who I am" to matter and other people to agree with you and TREAT YOU BETTER because of it. This is a covert contract, and it doesn't work.

Her genes do not give a fuck how nice you are. Supplicating is losing. Pedastaling her is losing. She wants a WINNER at all costs.

Triadis3 · 2017-07-15T12:50:46+00:00

Your neediness scares women away.

This is fundamentally anti redpill behaviour.

You have much reading and introspection to do, your worldview is still the bluepill Disney movie.

Start reading the sidebars of trp, asktrp, mrp and ask mrp. Read as many of the posts as possible.

Be prepared to have your world rocked as you unplug from the fantasy world you're living in.

Welcome to the desert of the real.

But I prefer the original from Jean Baudrillard's "Simulacra and Simulation"...

"If once we were able to view the Borges fable in which the cartographers of the Empire draw up a map so detailed that it ends up covering the territory exactly [...] this fable has now come full circle for us, and possesses nothing but the discrete charm of second-order simulacrum [...] It is the real, and not the map, whose vestiges persist here and there in the deserts that are no longer those of the Empire, but ours. The desert of the real itself."

Get to work.

Pierre-Marouille · 2017-07-15T12:01:33+00:00

The most powerful thing that works without "any" effort is to do the nofap challenge.
I know it sound far fetched but it worked like a charm on me. I didn't start nofap for that reason, but growing up emotionally without even thinking about it seems to be a byproduct of not fapping.
It used to take me ages to get over my exes or any strong feeling tbh. Now it takes a lot to shake my internal tranquility.
I also used to think I was a so called good guy. It turns out I was just too emotional.
Give nofap a serious try, especially if you know you are a heavy consumer of porn/masturbation.

bigman1090 · 2017-07-15T08:47:06+00:00

I am similar guy. I've done such stuff in the past. Best way is to divert your mind. Pick up hobbies, go learn salsa or cooking, go to the gym. Read a book. The less free time you have the less you will worry about these things

a_rod_77 · 2017-07-15T08:55:35+00:00

I'm just starting out bro, so take my advice with a grain of salt. First, delete all your social media it's not doing you any favors. Secondly, you need to find a purpose you say you have got charm and all this that you can hook girls easily, but the little expierence you have I can tell you are needy. You need to work on yourself phyically and mentally go into "Monk Mode" and once you have your shit together the girls will come. I have been you before shit even yesterday i went on my exs facebook to see another guy on with her i then proceeded to kill it in the gym and boxed for half an hour. I don't care about her anymore, but just knowing how much of a bitch i used to be it feuls me even if it's just for a day. You need to stop focusing on getting married it's bs you're only wasting your time it's better to have plates and eventually down the road if she proves herself to you she can be a LTR. Girls have to earn your love don't just give it away.

Title	Need Advice
Author	africanwannabe
Upvotes	21
Comments	11
Date	July 15, 2017 8:25 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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