TLDR: We've all heard about the alpha who gets discombobulated by the devastating blows of the "once in a lifetime unicorn" into a beta little bitch boy. But how to avoid falling in all other aspects of life while "in love"? It comes down to inner confidence and inner "game".

Most of you probably have or once have had an image in your head of the "ideal woman" for YOU. Someone who will fulfill all of your sexual and romantic desires, looks a certain way. You may be thinking of her right now.

Believe or not, this is a limiting belief (a blue pill one, and very alluring because of your ego). A limiting belief is a bar that you set for yourself that psychologically defeats you in terms of achievement. Think of yourself in the gym on your last set and you say "10 reps this time". When you get to 10, you may still have 5 (or 7) in you, but you set the limit of 10 for yourself so there's a chance you'll just stop at 10 and say "good enough". This is taking you a step back.

In life - in everything you do - you have a choice between progression and regression. When you are in a relationship and you want it to work: live out all of your dark triad or blue pill fantasies (your cherish moments) and then press the RESET button. Drop your limiting belief (the image of the perfect girl). She doesn't exist. Staying in a state of extreme delusional comfort no matter how tempting it is will tear away at your manhood.

It's the test of you as a man. Many men throughout history (kings, emperors, great warriors, musicians, artists, political leaders - have all been fucked by the "woman of their dreams"). Enjoy it in the moment, but then go cry in a corner about how there is no perfect woman, AWALT, etc. until your balls drop again. Then go have an affair. Or maybe two. Go work. Go to your man cave. Play with your kids. Don't fall into the trap, man.

EDIT: Shifting Focus. Once you've met your "goal" (personal record) you can move on to other things. Think of it as an RPG. You go up a level in relationship, now shift your main focus on something else.