Location Ottawa Ont Canada

Okay here's the story my wife and I separated on November 27th she did not contact me she cut off all communication with everyone including our daughter who is 23 years old.

Showed up two or three days later with the police. I waited out on the porch while she got it a couple of items and left again.

There's been no spoken contact between us no written contract between us no contact whatsoever between her leaving and now. About a week later I received a phone call from the Police asking me if I could come in and discuss some matter my wife had told them about. I was hesitant I don't trust authority but that's another story.

I ask them what the alternatives were. they said they could come to my home and talk to me. When they arrived they inform me they wanted to discuss allegations of a rape with me that my wife was accusing me of. It seemed to me and they more or less confirmed that their hands were tied and that it would be left to a judge regardless of whether or not I made a statement.

It’s a blur in my mind I was pretty emotional at the time as was my 23 yr old daughter who was visiting that morning. I indicated I wanted to make a statement to them because I had no clue what they were talking about I got the impression from the officer that it wasn't the best idea and I should talk to a lawyer we came to the conclusion that I was going to be charged no matter what.

They met me off my property for some reason. My daughter was called my sister to inform her of what happened my sister arranged for a lawyer to reach me at the jail and the police officer arranged for a lawyer for me duty counsel I think. After talking to the lawyer's assistant she advised me not to make a statement I did not know but apparently police can lie to you while conducting the interview I thought they were trying to get the truth but apparently that's not their job.

My lawyer's assistant advised me not to make a statement and ask to talk to the police officer I heard the officer confirm to the lawyer's assistant that I had been arrested and charged. I then got the phone back exchanged a few more words with my lawyer's assistant and hung up. I looked up in surprise and ask the officer I thought the determination has not yet been made whether or not I was charged he looked at me and said "yeah but you're not going to make a statement right?" I replied that that is what the lawyer had said to do and he proceeded charge me and release me with

On whatever the form was called. He wrote not to contact me ex or too frequent one of the establishments that my wife frequented and what date to appear at court. there was a default area on the form to fill in stay away from alcohol or drugs he said I'm not going to fill that in. I believe he knows as does everybody who knows me that these charges are groundless.

She's claiming that this occurred two years ago and she only now has the strength to say anything about it.

My Doctor is her Doctor and has responded to my wife's allegation by letter on my behalf. She has checked her record and finds no reference to this or any other abuse ever having been discussed. She further states that she has not seen any signs of abuse in the 25yrs we have been together.

She has also made the claim that I am controlling and jealous.

Anybody who knows the dynamics of our relationship will realize that's an out-and-out lie. She made a habit going to bingo regularly she had her own car she had my back hurt she paid all the bills she pick the house we live in I have not tried to control her in any way whatsoever in the entire 25 years of our relationship. I won't go into details but suffice to say I do not now nor have I ever had it in me to hit a woman. Let alone to do what she's accusing me of.

Now add to this receiving on last Friday an emergency motion to have me kicked out of the house all contents left here and her to take immediate possession.

There's $1,500 I didn’t have my wife left as soon as I started to question where all the money was going it’s what our last few fight were over. when she left The phone and Hydro were about to be shut off. and not knowing what was coming I had spent what little I had to pay them down.

On top of the $1500 I need for the rape defence. Every court date is min $1500. I'm on a fixed disability income but I make too much to get legal aid. I'm now broke I can't afford the next stage I can’t afford to defend myself against the false accusations I can't afford my mortgage I can't afford food in less than a month lawyers taking it and I appeared in court once.

I can’t afford justice.

I don't know what to do. I admit I'm not the easiest person to get along with in the world but neither was my wife. and the stressors we have both faced in the past 10 years Is justification I believe for even her actions . We have my debilitating accident, had a son diagnosed with schizophrenia, she's had two parents die, she was attacked by two crazy people with a car, we have legal battles with two of our landlords and much more I'm sure I'm forgetting. I know I'm not blameless but I think this is overkill I don't know what to do please help.

tl:dr Wife’s mad abusing legal system. HELP!

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