I owe it to xsplats blog that planted the seed that made me understand this part of the female mind a lot better, but that took at least a year so I want to lay it out because you might be interested in it.

If you look up solipsism you find two definitions, one is a philosphical stance that Schopenhauer called "an impenetrable fortress occupied by a madman" the other is being extremely egocentric.

What xsplat posted was that no, female have the tendency to particularize and emotionalize from the outwards inwards, whereas men generalize and try to find abstract rules from within in an outward direction.

The second phenomenon is what this subreddit is, men dedicated to find abstract rules that explain their subjective experiences.

This is obviously not how women work.

A few examples:

Two women talk to each other, one has a problem. Now the other one tells her she had the same problem, in detail of course and how it made her feel and whatnot, the they wallow in their feels and it all feels better.

What happened?

First woman tells her story. Second woman particulatizes and emotionalizes and draws it in, processes how it makes her feel. Finds reference experience within herself that matches feelings, tells first woman reference experience, first woman particulatizes and emotionalizes and draws it in, processes how it makes her feel. Story from second woman triggers same feelings she is feeling right now about her own story, hurray!, she feels understood.

So far, so unproblematic.

It gets problematic when for example some woman has stabbed her husband 43 times in the throat and women instinctively side with her, the poor girl, he must have done something terrible, he probably deserved it.

Why?

Not because they hate men per se, but they immediately think, oh my, I would only do something like that if he had done something really terrible, which, in most cases, is true.

The reason why she does not have the same reaction when a man stabs his wife is because she does not identify with him, she automatically thinks, what if someone did that to me?

There are several conclusions that can be drawn from this:

1) "Team Woman", the in group preference of women has nothing to do with loyalty or that they even like other women that much (usually, they dont), its just that they cannot help it but put themselves into another womans shoes.

You can use that to your advantage, because if a woman likes you she can lay out another womans scheming ways down to the footnotes if you ask her for her opinion about another womans actions.

2) The often casual cruelty they display towards men is because they literally cannot put themselves into a mans shoes, they have no reference experiences that would allow them to relate to a mans feelings.

3)It makes no sense to use "Sollipsism!!!" as a term that conflates, solipsism, a simple feature of the female mind, with arrogance, spoiled bitch sindrome or type B personality disorders, because if you do, "all women are sollipsistic" automatically becomes "all women are bitches".

4) Explaining red pill theory to women, if you must.

Most redpillers have tried it, most have failed. You know how they react, "men do it too!!!" and worse, "yeah, but I know that one case...." as if that one case meant anything in the case of overwhelming statistics.

Sorry, but thats how they relate to the world.

They only way it can be done is by breaking it down into morsels that invoke feelings in her that come close enought to something she has felt before and then she gets it. She might not agree, but she gets it.

Feed her enough morsels and she builds herself an emotional landscape that actually is pretty redpill.

tldr: Female sollipsism is a feature, not a bug, it is not evil per se, it should not be conflated with shitty behavior and you cannot fight, but it is easy to understand and to work with.