Before I get into what I wish to discuss today I'd like to thank everyone here who has helped turn what was once a small community into one of the fastest growing subs on Reddit. It is truly remarkable what we are all capable of when we trust the words and wisdom of our fellow man. Unfortunately, with growing numbers has come the corresponding problem of uneducated contributions leading some members to look at The Red Pill solely as sexual strategy. Seemingly everyone wants a quick fix: something to deal with perceived faults, to get them laid, to make friends - some sort of strategy which gives immediate, measurable results. This is toxic, and a major reason why I have decided to focus on something which should be given more attention: self esteem and your own personal value as it applies to intersexual dynamics.

Indeed, just earlier today I read a post from someone who was very upset as to how his night went. He was out with friends, there were women, good food the works. Yet instead of making the most of the situation this individual was paralyzed with fear. To rationalize this experience excuses upon excuses were piled on - maybe I’m not attractive enough, maybe I can’t talk to girls etc. This is just one of many examples we see on this sub every day - guys moaning and groaning as to why (in the case that they did) having read the sidebar and spent some time here are still not able to actualize the concept of plate spinning. This is almost always because of personal value and self esteem and If I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say "she's out of my league" I'd be rich.

You see, without either of the above you do not have frame. Instead you look around yourself finding little bits and pieces to craft what you might think is an attractive you. Combine that with core Red Pill theory and literature and the beta thinks that they cannot fail. After all, he did his homework, he got out there and now there needs to be results! Wrong, wrong wrong and wrong!!! This is not a PUA forum, this is not a twelve step program and the theory we all try to subscribe to is certainly no silver bullet. Yet this mentality is as pervasive as it is contagious.

All of us have come from somewhere to be here today: maybe a bad significant other, a messy divorce or worse still maybe you finally looked up and realized what a joke the world of today is. We are not the people we once were and had to start from somewhere. In fact some of us had worse issues but despite that none of this now matters: what matters is that you now get it. You understand that for all intents and purposes the SMP is a glorified game, that women are predictable and that while love in many instances is a verifiable illusion power is most certainly not. What most don’t however get is that what we discuss is only a tool. It is you that makes things happen, your grasp of confidence, of power - items which build self esteem and ultimately frame. Only when you are able to shed your skin of insecurities will you grasp abundance mentality and plate spinning theory. Without it you are engaging in pure PUA and most women (being masters of covert communication) are able to smell this a mile away.

So stop making excuses as to why you won’t lift, stop looking at the bar or the next get together as game time and instead take what is being discussed here and apply it to every aspect of your life. Your career, your family, your hobbies and of course the SMP. This is a tool for everyday life not just intersexual dynamics and the more you use it the more natural you will become. This is how you build frame. You become it. So if you find yourself identifying with anything here it's time to wipe those eyes and get to work.