Please explain this logic to me.

TheRedPrivilege · 2014-01-20T16:33:50+00:00

If you're looking for a serious answer then you're going to get it from the sidebar material. The difference between men and women in regards to multiple sexual partners is that men do not equate sex to an emotional attachment, it is a raw desire that we feel to our very core. Women have sex with a man she deems worthy which is why we believe that women are the gatekeepers to sex while men are the gatekeepers to commitment.

The problem arises when women have multiple sexual partners their ability to pair bond with a single mate is eroded away. Associating an emotional attachment with every other guy they fuck is a dangerous business for a woman's psych and eventually dulls her emotional attachment to sex. In the same accord, men who freely give over emotional attachment/commitment/validation to multiple women in order to get sympathy sex we would call a male slut because he freely surrenders the one thing that the opposite sex wants so badly.

A man who sees a woman bragging about having many sexual partners is seen as disgusting because promiscuity in women is a sign of weakness in her role as a female. Men will readily fuck her but they will never take her as an LTR. In the same light, men who readily give away their emotional availability are looked down on as friend material only. They aren't men because they don't respect themselves enough to withhold commitment without an even trade.

Sex and Commitment walk the same line, its just more taboo to think of them as equal.

Edit: Cleaned up a bit as I'm at work.

Edit 2: Guys please don't downvote OP because of his opinions, that's just fucking retarded. Whether or not s/he is here maliciously or genuinely curious there is no point in squashing his voice.

2014-01-20T16:37:37+00:00

Most men here wouldn't pump and dump an 18 year old hot virgin with a traditional upbringing who wants a relationship.

Sluts are broken women, when she has had 50 something partners, one extra cock isn't going to make a difference anymore. Why it's undesirable? Cause it's easy to get cock as a female, but it takes a skill set to get women as a man.

themoor · 2014-01-20T16:24:24+00:00

I'm writing this when I do not see comments yet, though I expect them to be of the following themes:

(1) For a woman to sleep around requires her to only show up and spread her legs. For a guy to sleep around requires skill, seduction, and so on. Even fat chicks can get laid easier than fat guys.

(2) As the number of partners a person has increases, their ability to pair-bond in the future goes down. Though this happens to both sexes, it influences women to a higher degree than men. Science backs this up, but don't really feel like looking up all the links to show it.

(3) A cliche in these circles goes like this: A lock that can be opened by any key is a shitty lock. A key that can open any lock is a master key.

(4) In terms of evolutionary psychology theory, pair-bonding developed more as a method of securing provision, property, political alliances, and heirs. Over time, it becomes important for a male-familial line to ensure the progeny of a woman comes from the male she is partnered with. If women sleep around, the likelihood of a child being her partners decreases. Thus, over time, males developed distaste for women with show a propensity for promiscuity.

As I understand it, those are the basic arguments. Maybe posters will add more.

Hormander · 2014-01-20T16:27:21+00:00

If a key can fit 50 locks, it's a good key.

If a lock can let 50 keys fit into it, it's a bad lock.

2014-01-20T17:24:51+00:00

Honestly? Because of the mate preferences of the two genders.

Men, on average, don't want a woman who is overly successful with other men, because men fear having to raise another man's child as their own.

Women, on average, want a man who is extremely successful with other women, because that man is clearly the most fit, and she has no reason to worry about whether or not any resulting child will actually be hers.

IF women want this to change, they have to start caring like men do.

TfahsNoriEht · 2014-01-20T19:17:53+00:00

Stop feeding the troll you dumbasses. If she really wants the answer, it's there in the sidebar.

Fitch0y · 2014-01-20T16:42:20+00:00

Because men prefer women with a low partner count.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex

Men are the gatekeepers of commitment

You slept with 50+ women, but didn't give away your commitment, but you will do it for a good girl. And you expect her to be a good gatekeeper too.

Fucking a girl with low partner count also has to do with social proof. I mean imagine a small village, everyone fucked 1 girl. If you get together with her everyone would say: Yeah that was easy...

2014-01-20T16:39:04+00:00

If a man has 50+ partners that are attractive, then he's called a stud. If he's just sleeping with anything with a pulse, nobody's going to look up to him and he'll probably be considered a sex addict.

2014-01-20T18:43:27+00:00

Why is is okay for men to sleep around and not for women?

Define "okay"..

I think most TRPers will agree that women have the "right" to be a slut, but that does not make it "a good idea". Similary, men have the "right" to be a slut, that also does not automatically make it a good idea. As others have pointed out, societal pressures generally make it a better idea for men than for women.

Here's another right: the right to have preferences in your mate. Women have the "right" to disfavor promiscuous men, should they choose to. Generally, they do not. Men also have the "right" to disfavor promiscuous women. Generally, they do.

In my experience, though, women slut-shame each other far more than men slut-shame women. Perhaps you can explain to us why that is.

Lovesbrownies · 2014-01-20T18:52:09+00:00

If you have a key that can open any lock than you have a Master Key.

If you have a lock that can be opened by any key than you just have a shitty lock.

2014-01-20T18:53:34+00:00

You're probably a troll, but despite this I'll post two links of previous discussions on this:

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1qz4jf/sex_is_coveted_by_men_she_said_accordingly_women/

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1il86r/why_promiscuity_devalues_women_and_not_men/

martianmarvin · 2014-01-20T16:39:50+00:00

It makes sense when you consider female preferences. If women stigmatized male promiscuity, then you'd probably find fewer men willing to brag about it.

Men also tend to prefer feminine women, while taking pride in being masculine. Are they hypocritical for that, too?

Metopsyuturvy · 2014-01-20T16:42:58+00:00

It is okay for men to sleep around because we personally cannot become pregnant.

Historically, pregnancy has been the sole responsibility of the woman. A woman puts herself at risk of a pregnancy every time she engages in intercourse. Pregnancy is inherently VERY risky in itself (i.e. abortions, single motherhood induced poverty, complications, etc.).

This is why female virgins are so coveted. They do not have any of the baggage associated with having gone through heinous abortions, single motherhood, and STDs.

If a man selects/chooses to put his efforts and resources into raising offspring with a woman, he would be irresponsible for taking the risk of doing it with a promiscuous woman as opposed to a selective/choosy one.

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