Okay, situation: you and a girl have been "talking" and it's obviously getting sexual. but she's a girl with virtually no sexual history, and is "nervous." you attempt sex, or even something less, and she declines. what do you do? from what I've read, it seems like the option is like a fucking ultimatum. "do this or we're over." but that seems ridiculous, and she'll think you're "only talking to her for sex" or whatever. the best option, clearly, is to get her to want to fuck you. but I'm pretty sure in some situations that could be impossible, or it may just be well beyond your ability because you are not as good as you can be. so, what's the play?