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[–]frankiejholden 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
RUN.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Could you please give me more information on this? I'm a BP trying to learn here.
From one POV, I see that being in an emotionally unstable state AND dating while that looks like looking for a quick fix. Repeating "don't ask me about that" looks like she really wanted me to ask her about it. But that other parts - I totally don't understand.
[–]1KyfhoMyoba 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Run fast, run far.
It sounds to me, and I'm just guessing here, that you are a young man. None of the stuff you posted that she said can be good. I don't know specifically HOW it is bad, and I don't think that I need to. Unless you've been incel for a few years, just get. out. now. I can see no good coming from this, even if you've got lots of resources - material, experiential, and emotional. High risk, low reward.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks. That was bit strange from her. Ain't gonna call her first, ain't gonna chase her, let her make up her mind and come back with a serious proposal, or bye.
[–]cascadecombo 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
She seems high maintenance. Unless you want an uphill battle this may be worth more than you think it is.
I was once one who wanted to help those girls who were in a bad spot, the damsels in distress you could say. I learned quite well with the last girlfriend I had:
when you try to save a damsel in distress, you end up with a distressed damsel.
And what the fuck, you post in TRP 2-4 times a day, fucking go lurk and read the side bar, this isn't a place for people to hold your hand or cheer you on.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for explanation; as for the rest of your comment, did the "block user" function stopped working?
[–]cascadecombo 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Why bother with that, when it is apparent that you have read the sidebar and absorbed what many others have taken the time to read and learn form it will be apparent to everyone else.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ah man, whatever. I got really condensed pill of knowledge and realization in last days. I'm really glad I found help here. Thanks for everything. Do you have any specific suggestions on red flags when it comes to sidebar material?
[–]cascadecombo 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I got really condensed pill of knowledge and realization in last days.
If that is what you think, that is good, but that doesn't mean you've completely digested / embraced / come to a comfortable understanding of what things are. There is a reason why people are told to lurk and read.
Pretty much most of the side bar talks about strategy, how and why women act the way they do, if you get a solid grasp of how men and women are different, the red flags will become more apparent. Everyone handles things different, but most people need time to fully accept the truth.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Well, let me rephrase myself, I was specifically asking about red flags materials :-)
Yes, it does take time. Yes, I wanted somebody to hold my hand for the past week.
I'm not sure if you know how to live for 7 years in an abusive marriage, with every part of your masculinity criticized and shamed. Yes, it was my choice. For many years, it was not a conscious one - having the childhood I had, I thought that things are supposed to be this way. Somehow, I've seen the light.
[–]cascadecombo 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was in an abusive relationship for a year, before that I never had problems, tried to rescue a girl from her own bad situations and choices and only learned that the women will pull everyone around them into those situations which she knows / is most comfortable in those being, shitty ones.
Having already known the basics of how shit works before I even found this place helped a lot, especially in showing me all the mistakes I made while trying to be the man in that girls fucked up world when in fact I was only placating her fucked up expectations.
[–]laere 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Women have emotional baggage. Sounds like they have had it pent up for a while, and it almost seems as if physical contact/attraction basically bombed the flood gates open?
The last thing you want to hear from a woman is her issues after a kiss or even during sex, that's just damaged goods off the scale.
Let's imagine the opposite. She would run like hell.
[–]slcjosh 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
NEXT.
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