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Redpill please help me

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October 11, 2014
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Title Redpill please help me
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Date October 11, 2014 1:17 PM UTC
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[–]MagicGainbow15 points16 points17 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

You stole her away and she cheated on you with the guy you stole her from, she will hurt you and you deserve it.

You come here admitting that you aren't going to leave her and want reassurance that she's good, she ain't and she is definitely not a unicorn, she undoubtedly sucked that guys cock over the summer among other things, move on you spineless bitch.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I went to the university and found a volunteer to listen to my problems, I let it all out and feel much better and see much clearer.

I'm still undecided between having her as nothing else but a plate or really just letting it go.

If I can have her as a plate, would that still be toxic to me?

[–]MagicGainbow1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, most likely, it's better you cut contact and move on, you're young an d this relationship is doomed.

[+][deleted] -9 points-8 points-7 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Dude... why would you put that image in my head?

It's not like I'm deluding myself, I know what situation I'm in, I just wanted to pretend like nothing happened for my own sake.

Fuck man, just, I can't believe you just said that. I would've been able to take everything you said at face value but this thing JUST happened to me and you're saying stuff like that.

You're just really heartless and I hope the words you told me haunt you for the rest of your life.

Real life is harsh, and I'm feeling it right now, but you just twisted the knife for no good reason.

[–]MagicGainbow6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

I'm not heartless, you're an idiot coming to trp of all places expecting your hand to be held.

I twisted the knife because you are refusing to see the reality that she's an untrustworthy ho, if she'll leave him she'll leave you and she's proven that already.

[–]MagicGainbow1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzYGWF6qrts

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Yeah but we werent in relationship, and i did it to her before.

I was thinking we could fuck and be friends and maybe the feelings would go back.

Im willing to go over this because of how much i like her. We're still young cant i enjoy being with her for a while longer?

She is different. She went through hardship as a child, family breaking up over a bad mother and stuff.

She isnt some entitled bitch, she a sweet human being. She has flaws just like me.

I fucked somebody else while i was away a bit too and i she want to break it off and i didnt let her.

If anything i had in my mind that the playing field was kinda balanced now until you put that image in my head. All you did was make me cry more.

Like i said im not fucking delusional im perfectly aware of what is going on but not everything is fucking black or white.

Next time, say the same but dont be a fucking cunt about it.

Thanks for the input anyway.

[–]Iron-willing 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Listen to me, don't pursue this chick and I'm going to tell you why.

  • She cheated with you; girls that cheat will cheat on anyone
  • She "cheated" on you; if you guys had a steady thing going and she chose to disregard she doesn't care about you
  • You "cheated" on her, you don't deserve to be with a woman you cheat on if you were together for a year
  • You've established yourself as a beta by getting upset and showing all your emotions in front of her. At best you will now be an orbiter
  • You put her on a pedestal, she will recognize the subtle change and you will not be able to get with her.

Just leave man, you are deluding yourself into justifying both your and her bad behavior. You two were together for a year (unless I am misinterpreting your original post) yet somehow you justify it as okay that you both cheated since it wasn't "official". Going back with this girl just puts you back into a toxic relationship, you'll probably do it anyway since you are just going to write us all off as stupid but keep reading trp and check back in 3 months and with your newfound knowledge it will be evident why you need to leave.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It's been a while and I had sometime to cool off and let myself emotionally breakdown. I feel much better and see clearer.

I'm still undecided between having her as nothing else but a plate or just letting her go altogether.

If I had her as a plate would that still be toxic?

[–]120902051820250 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

YES it would be toxic. move on.

[–]120902051820252 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You could game this chick and get her but it would be hard to prevent her from cheating again. She's the type.

Instead of helping you do that, I encourage you to get over her completely. Freeze her out like she does not exist. Get through it and realize how easy it actually is to move on. Then you'll never get oneitis again.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I know this would be the perfect solution, what triggered all the feelings was seeing her.

I want to game this chick. For some reason.

I don't know man, I can't stop fucking crying man I don't know

[–]120902051820254 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

She is gaming you.

Does that knowledge help?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe she is idk i never felt this sad before and am not thinking straight about what i want

[–]wantonton 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Prime example of the male hamster in overdrive. You know what she did but you are trying to bury what it means about her feelings under your own.

She fucked the dude. When doing so she either: a) was not thinking about you at all. That means no matter how she feels about you or how strongly, you mean nothing compared to sucking this other Guy's cock. B) she was thinking about you and didn't care when presented with the opportunity for her to be railed by this guy's dick.

Can you justify feeling the way you do about a person who feels for you the way she clearly does?

[–]TheSKSpecial2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You're being a pussy right now. In a major way.

Are you married to her? No? Then move the fuck on. You're crying over her and she's probably getting new dick right now.

There are 3.5 billion other women in the world, find some and fuck some.

[–]Newdist21 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This woman is so fucking far from a unicorn it's not funny.

A real unicorn, when faced with a choice between breaking up with her man or going without dick for three months... goes without dick for three months. It's not even a discussion.

What's her N?

[–]1favours_of_the_moon1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

We're ALL gonna get hurt.

Don't numb your feelings or hide behind defense mechanisms. Be in touch with your feelings, that's a huge part of being actualized. If you hide from your feelings or wall yourself off, you'll also be walling yourself off from feeling love, happiness, etc. You'll withdraw into your own mind, like a beta and start rationalizing things, which is what you want to avoid to begin with.

It sounds like you know what you are doing and you are aware of the situation. Just don't delude yourself, and it doesn't sound like you are.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks man. It was the first time I was cheated on, although technically not cheated on because we weren't in a relationship.

It still hurts, to top it off, her ex was her first so I know how girls can be attached to them. I just knew that sleazy fuck would try and get her back, I can't believe he did. I want to kill him.

At the same time it is a beautiful thing, to love, to have your heart broken. I wouldn't be feeling this way if a nice feeling wasn't there in the first place. But it's so painful. So painful it almost makes you wish you never fell in love in the first place.

Not to mention I'm alone in another country, that all my friends are back home, that the friends I made last year don't want to be friends with me anymore because admittedly I acted very arrogantly and assholish last year because I was trying to be something I wasn't.

Life is being tough on me right now, It's lonely, my love isn't as pure as I thought it was, my friends are gone, all I feel I have right now is the internet and video games. To top it off, I'm also fucking broke.

All my life all I ever did was hide my emotions because I had a shitty childhood, whenever something bad happened to me I simply could not be bothered feeling anything about it because I was hurt so much before. And for the first time in a long time, my emotions are coming out again and it's all because of this girl.

[–]1favours_of_the_moon0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, don't go back to holding shit in.

And do NOT let her leverage you, because she knows you're alone. Fuck that shit. And anyway, make some new friends where you are.

If you need money, figure out how to make it creatively, doing something you're good at. It's not a job-based economy right now anyway. It's a "think of something you can do" economy.

Stay strong, bro!

[–][deleted] 1 points1 points1 points 11 years ago | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Between posting this and posting this very coment i allowed myself to emotionally breakdown and feel better as well as see clearer.

Ill either have her as a plate or nothing at all.

Trp is truth. I will not deny truth.

[–]ZhengShi0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Trp is truth. War is peace. Freedom is slavery.

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[–]Kindoki-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If you can keep her around with minimal investment as a plate then I guess go for it. I'd cut ties and move on. Do something nice for yourself, get out and try to meet some new people. Exercise, meditate, and read a book. There is NO PUSSY worth the amount of mental gymnastics you're putting yourself through.

Edit: If she is aware of how conflicted you are and you have spilled your guts to her like you did above, you've already lost.

[–]Mightaswellmakeone-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I say go for her. No problem. Just don't get married, don't get her pregnant, or any type of bind that forces you to stay with her.

As you get older, if you're doing it right, you learn there are multiple women you have this with. In my life I've had the strong connection you describe almost ten times? I don't remember.

After awhile you realize that yes, it's incredibly amazing. Yes, it'll be super hard to find again. Yes, life can still be great without it.

Stick with the girl. Enjoy other girls. If enjoying other girls makes her leave, let her go. Because at that point, changing to make her stay means she's already a new person and no longer the one you wanted.

Don't waste your time talking about other people you fucked. That's nonsense.

[–]ZhengShi-5 points-4 points-3 points 11 years ago (30 children) | Copy Link

Haha, redpillers are always so miserable. I love being a normal person in a happy relationship and watching you guys flounder like this. It's hilarious :D

[–]MagicGainbow5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link

This guy clearly isn't redpill as he is ignoring pretty much every redpill piece of advice and admits that he knows things are fucked up.

[–]ZhengShi-4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link

You guys are miserable whether you follow this bullshit to the letter or half-ass it. It's so funny :D

[–]Newdist20 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

This is the equivalent of going to a dieting subreddit and making fun of the people for being fatties, or former fatties, or nutritionists ("lol what kind of loser hangs around with fatties. You'll never be able to help them lose weight.")

Please just fuck off.

[–]ZhengShi-4 points-3 points-2 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

It's more like going into a sub full of Christian Scientists and making fun of them for being sick.

[–]GnarlyBellyButton69 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

Damn, and I thought asians were supposed to be smart.

[–]ZhengShi-3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Lol, I love it when redpillers want to lay down an epic burn, but they can't actually think of anything cruel or disparaging to say.

[–]GnarlyBellyButton69 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

We don't need to; you do it yourself to yourself.

[–]ZhengShi-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

...

That's your stinging retort? Really? Jesus, you suck at this.

[–]GnarlyBellyButton69 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Says the one who's getting flogged by everyone here

[–]ZhengShi1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

rofl, witty banter isn't really your strong suit, huh? That's okay champ, there's plenty of equally boring women out there who won't give a damn whether you can make them laugh or not

[–]GnarlyBellyButton691 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Says the one getting trolled hard

[–]MagicGainbow0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

His misery in this case has nothing to do with trp but his own personal decisions, and from what he's said he hasn't followed any advice, it's like calling someone a Christian for reading the bible.

[–]ZhengShi-1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

It's more like a Christian complaining to his pastor that prayer hasn't cured his illness, and the pastor telling him that he just needs to pray harder. Superstitious thinking is virtually the same in all types of cult. If something goes wrong, it's because you misapplied your treatment, or didn't work hard enough, or weren't sufficiently dedicated. It's always the practitioner who's at fault, never the practice.

[–]MagicGainbow0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Except he didn't apply anything.

[–]ZhengShi0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

He did. I read his history before he deleted it. There were multiple posts about him applying redpill philosophy to his life. Like so many others, he tried and failed.

It's never the practice. It's always the practitioner.

[–]MagicGainbow0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I doubt that considering trp advises against cheating, going on breaks and taking back a girl who has slept with someone else during a break, the guy admits he has fucked up left, right and center but prefers to lie to himself and came on here asking everyone else to do the same.

[–]ZhengShi0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I doubt that considering trp advises against cheating,

This is arguable at best, I've seen dozens of redpillers encourage cheating without experiencing significant community backlash. But that inconsistency is part of the cultish beauty of TRP. The many different flavors of redpill mean that any failure can be neatly attributed to misapplied philosophy, whereas all forms of success can be used as validation. It's an impressively tidy system.

[–]TheSKSpecial2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Your relationship is so happy you feel the need to tell us about it...are you trying to convince us or yourself?

[–]ZhengShi-5 points-4 points-3 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

You're a member in a sub full of men who spend half their lives on the internet, bragging about their totally real HB9 conquests. Who are you trying to convince?

[–]TheSKSpecial2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

You gonna answer the question or nah?

EDIT: you are convinced of this 'RPers are miserable' thing, aren't you?

[–]ZhengShi-3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Ok, I'm not trying to convince anyone. But I know that TRPs need to believe that everyone else is as miserable as they are, so feel free to imagine that I'm in an abusive relationship or something. Whatever makes you feel better.

[–]TheSKSpecial1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Impressive projection there.

All I asked was why you felt the need to tell us that you're in a "happy relationship". How you turned that into "you're in an abusive relationship" is beyond me.

I take it you don't want to answer the question?

[–]ZhengShi-3 points-2 points-1 points 11 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link

Uh no, actually that wasn't what you asked. You asked me "who I was trying to convince" and I answered that question in pretty straightforward terms. Apparently the information you got wasn't really the information you wanted. So naturally, like a good little Redpill solipsist, you disparaged the answer rather than considering that perhaps you had asked the wrong question.

[–]TheSKSpecial0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

Allow me to rephrase the question then. Why was it so important to you that you felt the need to notify us of the status of your relationship? And who are you trying to convince?

EDIT: and calling me solipsist is funny, seeing as you came into a thread made by somebody crying the blues and said 'look at me, see how happy I am!"

[–]ZhengShi-2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

Who says it's "so important" to me? Jesus, I write a single sentence about my relationship and you react like I've been badgering you with this for a week. In spite of your accusations that I'm "projecting" here, I kind of suspect you might be projecting your own discomfort about my relationship onto me.

EDIT: and calling me solipsist is funny, seeing as you came into a thread made by somebody crying the blues and said 'look at me, see how happy I am!"

Yeah, that's not actually solipsism, it's just being an asshole. Lol, you redpillers and your clever-sounding words that you don't know how to use.

[–]TheSKSpecial0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It was important enough to you that you felt the need to notify us, in a thread completely irrelevant to your point. You've also made the assumption that asking you a question means I think you're in an abusive relationship. I just asked the question, you're the one making the leaps and projections.

[–]ZhengShi0 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Wow, you're right. I wrote a comment on an internet forum. Clearly it must be super important to me, because nobody ever does that kind of thing in an offhand way.

You've also made the assumption that asking you a question means I think you're in an abusive relationship.

No dude, that was a joke. Jesus, communicating with people in here is like learning to speak robot. No wonder you all have social problems.

[–]GnarlyBellyButton69 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

OP of this comment chain's a faggot

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