RP advice on going out alone

theredpill101 · 2014-02-02T00:25:58+00:00

Club events are difficult, in my opinion, because it's very hard to talk to people over the noise.

Bars and restaurants with bars are a different animal.

Clubs rely largely on visual cues, over verbal ones. Go out, look good, dress well, smell good, and act with confidence. If you take the time in a club, it's easy to pick the confident from the weak. Those who are confident take breaks on the sides of the dance floor - they don't live there. They leave the dance floor to see their friends.

Those are not confident are hunched against the walls, and never leave. They're arms cross, their hands go in their pockets, they look uncomfortable.

I've learned that female strategy in a club situation is to dance with a girlfriend, and generally a guy will come up and start dancing on/behind them. The girl will look to her friend, who will give a thumbs up/down as to how hot the guy is. If hot: continue to dance. if not: leave.

Again: it is all visual.

Play to your strengths - if you look good, dress well (and not suit and tie - dress well for a club - dark jeans/dark pullover/nice loafers, khakis/pullover/loafers) you'll have an easy time. If your strength is your quick wit and expansive vocabulary, the club scene may not be the place you should be trying to find women. Furthermore: being tall/average height and thin/athletic/muscular makes it even easier - that initial once-over your targets friend gives you is the make or break. Is he handsome? Is he short? Do his clothes look nice/stylish, or ratty? Does he work out? These are all things she will determine at first glance; your job is to make sure she makes a positive judgement.

In sum: go and just watch for a bit. Take note of the guys getting the women, take note of the guys who are not. Emulate the former. Make sure the environment doesn't make you uncomfortable - have a good time (if you don't enjoy being there, that feeling will spill off of you regardless of your efforts to control it). Remember: clubs give women the upper hand on men, so from the beginning you have a challenge on your hands. Make sure you're up to meet that challenge.

bradbrookequincy · 2014-02-02T00:14:06+00:00

Smile. 2. Dont look lonely. 3. Found that happening dinner spots where you can sit at the bar work better than clubs. Every night is not a success but sooner or later you find yourself in the right situation.

50-cal · 2014-02-02T00:53:43+00:00

Smoking area and open everyone. Last weekend I walked into a club alone, by the time I left 2 hours later I had a group of 12 people in tow to the next bar. Another hour and I bounced a girl alone to another bar. Unfortunately I bottled it and only managed to make out.

It's a worthwhile thing to do though, even if only to test yourself and push your boundaries. You just have to be confident and own your state/frame though, if you look awkward you'll get no where and if you feel uncomfortable it'll show. As usual employ a few tricks such as keeping other people talking about themselves, introducing groups to one another and being the centre of attention (talking slowly, clearly and projecting your voice, make sure others lean in to talk to you, use gestures). As long as you're seen with someone you'll no longer be there 'alone' and no one will care enough to ask.

Edit: I say smoking area even if you don't smoke because (here in the UK at least) you have to smoke outside. This has a 3-fold effect. A) You can ask someone for a cigarette or lighter, instant opener. B) There's no music so it isn't loud. C) People will assume that your friends are inside.

draketton · 2014-02-02T00:40:10+00:00

Solo clubbing was the first thing I tried when I started actively pursuing women and I went like 0/15 on it before giving up. I could get the occasional grind session by showing up early and being the first guy to start dancing in front of a crowd, but I could never close after doing that. The noise level made conversation impossible and I'm not good enough at non-verbal game to get a girl to follow me out of a club with just body language and pulls.

DukeHollywood · 2014-02-02T06:57:04+00:00

I'm from the US but traveling the world right now solo for the most part.

I've found it infinitely easier to go out by myself anywhere outside the US. The US really has a culture where you go out with your group of friends and sometime groups mingle and sometimes they don't. When out with friends in the US if I wander off to talk to chicks I always get asked where my friends are.

I've struggled with it back home but while traveling everyone i cool with it and i've met lots of amazing people.

My only other advice for the US would be try going out on off night AKA any night but Friday or Saturday. I've found girls/anyone can be a lot more receptive to meeting new people on other nights of the week. They just have a different vibe.

[deleted] · 2014-02-02T00:51:25+00:00

Thank you guys this sub has always been a tremendous help

Kimjungillestt · 2014-02-02T06:50:22+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kd3Rs9FxguA

RSD Tyler seems to know some things about trying to pick up girls at parties and clubs. Check it out.

Fitch0y · 2014-02-02T11:52:59+00:00

I enjoy myself

Get a drink, talk to the people next to me, dance with some girls, open girls and cut the conversation, talk to more, pick up one, make out with her, back to dancing, get a new girl or take the first one home. After some weeks you will get to know many people. They will shout your name when you come in - nice preselection. Then you can hang out with them or get to know more people. Soon they will start to ask you why you always go out alone. Then I say well, I am never alone, I am the party. Then I go on enjoying myself.

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