The idea that you would become a man capable of handling situations seems to have taken a back seat in the Red Pill lately.

There is a lot of advice on what to do in situations A,B,C. But situations run infinitely in their vastness and complexity. The problem with deconstructing and understanding anything is when the knowledge distorts you from seeing a situation clearly.

I'll rather controversially say I think AWALT should be dropped at a certain point. When you're a man who can't get much done AWALT is a fantastic way to tint your glasses. When you become a man that most women want you will actually be wasting your time with AWALT.

Hypergamy for instance. If women want a beta male as a provider then hypergamy already seems contradictory. A lot of women these days will want to fuck an alpha but would never want to have him in a relationship because it would lack security. There could be nothing better than for them to find a guy who stays with them at all costs, who is desperately in love with them (even though they'll resent him). Were not in the 50's anymore, the entire range of manliness has moved down many notches. Open relationships, beta's today are fine with gf hopping on random dick while he stays home. Ego and ridicule would have been enough in the past to cause a beta to end it, but now it is socially acceptable. You're right it's just your turn, and his turn, and your turn to bang her because your gf wants to bang him.

You can't blanket Areas. In some cities, especially college towns, the whole place is a lot like shitting where you eat. The dating dynamic can change quite a bit.

Quote from girl recently, "So Rachel and I went to Chicago last week, there were these creepy dudes touching our arms and stuff in awkward ways. It was so weird." --- If you don't know how to handle yourself then kino is gonna be weird.

Have Self Respect.

Having self respect not only gives you confidence but helps you perceive the world more objectively and live it more naturally.

Don't do things that disrespect yourself so you can relieve your balls. Live your days in an honorable way that you can be proud of. If having sex means you must appease, wait around, or do anything you generally don't want to do... then forget it. You can lift all day, kill at your job, and have your shit together but this doesn't necessarily bring self respect. It never did for me. I could accomplish more walking out the door when a girl picked up the phone during conversation than I ever could ripping my legs apart on the squat rack.

You have to live in a way you respect yourself for and do what you want to do. And that's personal to you. The internal self is far more important than how you're externally perceived. Being a third wheel to that couple you don't like to save yourself from loneliness is entirely different than being a third wheel to feeling they're joining you in something YOU want to do. It may not look different, but internally you'll feel different and the external will reflect this.

You don't need others approval when you respect yourself. And because of this you can take more risks, handle yourself, whine and bitch less, and not feel the need to get laid all the time or see men as competition. You can empower yourself by not letting your dick and emotions control your life.

Extra note:

I've always looked up to my father. I was fortunate. He coached the teams I was on growing up and many guys would often say they wished he was there dad. He was always generous and kind, but for whatever reason he was just never the kind of guy you wanted to disrespect or even give shit to. People don't want to let him down.

The difference is he's very tall and looks like Kurt Russell. I am not threatening. What he could do and look generous doing, I could do and look needy/lonely. I followed his tracks and bored the hell out of girls. I looked for external sources to mimic but that never brought me self respect. It's self respect because its in tandem with you and your values. It's very destructive to look to others for approval (even redpill), it will turn you into a big mushy beta goo. When you're out sitting at the bar feeling proud that redpill would be proud, you haven't learned a thing.