Serious question about heartbreak/unrequited love

2comment · 2015-06-29T21:57:20+00:00

This the path to TRP for many.

Time and reflection lead to Stoicism. We're not unfeeling. Nor are we living detached from emotion. They just take a backseat; we know emotions are in-the-moment and capricious and let us make mistakes.

When I think back to my own unicorn, I realize she wasn't pure white as the driven snow and that I glued the horn on her. Oneitis is like permanent beer goggles on steroids for the soul.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-06-29T22:40:24+00:00

How do you guys deal with genuine heartbreak-- for example, knowing a certain woman and yourself are never destined to be together, or just not being wanted by a certain person?

We insert our penis into the vaginas of different bitches.

throwaway1643 · 2015-06-29T21:52:55+00:00

for example, knowing a certain woman and yourself are never destined to be together, or just not being wanted by a certain person?

C'est la vie. Accept it, and move on. There'll always be another woman.

What has been bothering me of late is that I can probably find a woman who fits the RP bill, and I can do the associated dance with a LTR, but I'm not sure it'll be a person with whom I have an intense feeling for

That's just naive thinking and shows you're still plugged in. Not your fault though, it's because of chemicals in your brain. Everything gets better with time.

Don't make your happiness contingent on finding an LTR or chasing women, instead now is your time to maximize your potential. Hit the gym, chase that degree, job, promotion, travel the world and all that.

Remember, there'll always be another woman.

abdada · 2015-06-29T21:50:40+00:00

knowing a certain woman and yourself are never destined to be together

I've never known this. I've had crushes but I always attribute that to me being lazy and not investing in myself and giving myself time to let my needs not get met elsehwere.

just not being wanted by a certain person

God creates over 16 new hotties every HOUR in the United States.

'm not sure it'll be a person with whom I have an intense feeling for.

You have intense feelings for yourself and for your future. She's there to meet some needs you have, but your #1 love should be your life.

Retro93 · 2015-06-29T23:24:01+00:00

knowing a certain woman and yourself are never destined to be together, or just not being wanted by a certain person?

So much wrong here, where the fuck do I begin...

Destiny is bullshit. Nothing is pre-destined, nothing is "supposed" to be happen. Things happen because of 1) random chance or 2) outside forces acting upon that object. You make your own destiny by getting up each day and working towards it.

Love is a delusion. All love is unrequited and goes unappreciated. What, you expected something from her? Then you're bargaining, not loving. You still have the BP mentality of "if I just do this and this and this, then she'll love me!" She won't. Because she can't.

And what's this shit about being destined to be together? Smells like oneitis. Get the fuck over her, she isn't special. None of them are, and very few have the potential to ever be. Not that it matters. Your mentality is going to run off any worthwhile girl that you encounter.

Focus on yourself. Stop thinking about girls for like two seconds and hear me out. You've probably spent more time today thinking about that bitch or her disgusting gash than you have improving yourself today. Ask yourself, what the fuck have you done today. What have you done for yourself? What have you created? What have you learned? If you can't answer these questions, why would she ever "love" you? You sit in your room and think about girls all day. That shit is creepy if you think about it from their perspective, no matter how thoughtful or whatever you think you're being.

Don't settle for "love." It's fickle. Aim to be admired and desired. Be knowledgeable, interesting, entertaining. Have projects that you work on. Find what you love and do it. You aren't going to do these things by dwelling on the fact that your feelings are hurt because some average bitch doesn't love you back. Feelings are a luxury that only the important can afford. Nobody gives a fuck about your feelings unless you deserve to be catered to. And as it stands, you don't deserve a damn thing.

Still with me? Good. Reach into your pants and make sure your nuts are still attached. You're gonna need them.

ComradeCynic · 2015-06-30T00:21:16+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. For myself, reading Marcus Aurelius provided the best mental adjustment.

RunawayGrain · 2015-06-30T01:13:34+00:00

knowing a certain woman and yourself are never destined to be together, or just not being wanted by a certain person?

By realizing that if you did get together with them, after a few months the sex would get boring and you would be left dealing with the actual person and not the ideal image your mind created.

but I'm not sure it'll be a person with whom I have an intense feeling for.

I love classic cars. I am looking for a 69 Dodge Charger to restore, and as such I've been looking over what others have done to restore one. I understand the process, and what I will have to do once I have an engine and transmission combo I like. It's going to be a pain in the ass, but I will definitely have a great time with that car. The same applies to women. Just because you know how to handle a woman the way she wants to be handled doesn't mean you can't have feelings for her.

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4benny2lava0 · 2015-06-30T09:35:32+00:00

Understand the game is different and one thing that has not changed is the games concern with how you feel. The deck is stacked against you and you have no room for sunk costs, revenge, retribution etc. When you find someone worth it, the feelings will develop.

bsutansalt · 2015-06-30T15:30:32+00:00

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-rubashov · 2015-06-30T01:42:17+00:00

Edit: downvoting a genuine question-- you guys give this place a good reputation.

I've downvoted this as it belongs in r/asktrp not TRP

You've also ignored the thread format requirements

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