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Shit tests: Advice?

adamlikesprettygirls · 2013-12-03T10:14:03+00:00

I'm awful at them. Any advice how to get better?...

adamlikesprettygirls

December 3, 2013

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Title	Shit tests: Advice?
Author	adamlikesprettygirls
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	December 3, 2013 10:14 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1rzgug/shit_tests_advice/
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[–]PrismaticFire 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]adamlikesprettygirls[S] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]phaseonx11 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

If it's a question like you stated above, /u/PrismaticFire is spot on. Agree and amplify until it becomes second nature.

As for the actions through which she seeks some reaction from you, you have many options to deal with them but it basically boils down to the idea that you "punish" bad behavior and "reward" good behavior. Your attention is the reward and the punishment is the withdrawal of it.

You could just give her a blank stare and try to make her feel embarrassed for the question she asked/thing she did and follow that with a freeze-out (explained below) for a little bit.

Completely ignore her and go about your business. Watch some tv, start playing with your phone, go outside for a bit. This usually works best for me when combined with the embarrassing stare. It will still work by itself, but it's intended effects will take longer to kick in. Embarrassment is a powerful emotion in humans. If she tries to get your attention, brush her off. Unless you TRULY fucked up, I guarantee that after a moderate period of silence, she will eventually come to you and probably say she's sorry in some way shape or form and alter the behavior that initially bothered you enough to freeze-out. This is as far as you'll need to go 80% of the time.

If the shit testing gets too constant/gets exponentially worse, you could instill some dread. Dread occurs naturally when you're a desirable man, it is known as "competition anxiety". You could up the dread and instill more of it than is naturally occurring for the fuck of it, but it is a double edged sword that should be used in a very calculated way as it could easily cause a girl to "give up on you".

After you've had enough of it, the next time she asks to hang out with you, say yes, setup a place and time and then a few hours before, say you can't make it. That something came up that needs to be taken care of. You don't really have to give her any specific excuses, just say "work" or "school" or "old friend is in town", then if they keep pressing, just don't reply for a while and wait for her to show some effort to talk to you without pressing the issue of why it is you're busy. The process also works if you are the one who initiated the meeting.

If she asks to reschedule immediately, you tell her you don't know when you'll be free and that you'll see then immediately say that you have to go then don't reply to any subsequent texts. Don't talk to her for a few days following that. I would recommend to get out and talk to other girls while this is happening.

If she's into you, she'll probably call/text you. If not, that's okay too. Casually text her. Texts are better for this sort of stuff. A simple "hey. whats up?" will do. She'll probably be giddy and respond with something like "Heyyyy :) What are you doing?" "nothing, just insert activity here. you?". If she's receptive to you, carry a conversation. If not, you should wait a long while for her to text you and try to initiate conversation and if she doesn't do it then, then you should probably next her. Whatever the case may be, NEVER seem too eager. Acting nonchalantly is the best you can do.

If she was receptive to your conversation though, she will eventually ask you what you've been up to or why you had to cancel that day or why you haven't spoken to her, etc.,etc. during the course of the conversation. Basically, just prying the shit out of you to try and figure out why you randomly stopped talking to her. Just say you were busy. "Busy doing what?". "just busy". If she keeps pressing, make up some crazy absurd story. Remember, you don't need to giver her any excuses. It's none of her business what you've been up to. Deflect and move on. At some point during the conversation, she'll probably ask YOU to hang out to which you will nonchalantly oblige.

It is CRUCIAL that you remember, you don't really have to give her excuses as to what it is you're doing or what you've been up to, simply pretend it never happened and reap the rewards of the crazy amounts of v tingles dread induces.

Whatever shit test a girl throws at you, stay confident and act is if she doesn't phase you one bit. Don't ever show her that it bothered you in any way that comes from a needy place. Don't ever sweat that shit.