One thing a lot of people often do bothered me and still bothers me. It is complaining.

Complaining is an act of forcing negative emotions onto other people. You do nothing but whining and causing negative emotions and negative memories tied to you in people's heads.

The act of complaining itself shows so much weakness: You aren't able to solve problems or deal with problems. Instead you whine about it in front of other people so you aren't burdened by it. Now, other people are burdened as well and your burden didn't get any lighter because you didn't solve your problem, you just whined about it. Instead of getting that burden away you only tell people "Look, I am so burdened in my life, have sympathy with me.".

It is pure weakness in so many aspects:

  • You aren't able to solve problems.
  • You can't even properly deal with something that might be a threat to your psychic or mental health.
  • You are a crybaby, not a grown man.
  • You aren't able to evoke positive emotions in people towards you.
  • You tie negative memories to you.

So ban any complaining from your head. No more complaining.

This is what it will bring to you:

  • You are forced to present yourself and make enjoyable situations.
  • You need to evoke positive emotions in people, which is a very valuable skill.
  • You need to master the skill of problem-solving, a.k.a. getting shit done.
  • You have to have a plan of what you do to not run into avoidable problems, a.k.a. knowing your shit.
  • You can make other people reflect their complaints since it isn't a thing allowed in your mind.
  • You learn constructive criticism.
  • You get a better work-attitude.

People won't even be able to tell what you have changed. But they will see you from a different point of view. You aren't a pussy anymore, you get your shit done. You are a man with so much experince and knowledge that you get work done when you start it, without talking about work. People will enjoy your company since you will always cause positive emotions while following your plans, which are tied to positive memories in people's heads. They remember you as a mentally strong and dominant person.

Also, just throw back people's complaints at them. Most of times, they just rant for the sake of it and I don't waste my time on that. I tell them to shut up and do something about it or ask for advice. But sometimes, people actually look for advice when complaining. This is hard to distinguish, but you nullify their complaint with a solid advice as long as they want advice.

Before starting any work, make a plan of what needs to be prepared or done beforehand. This is problem-solving at the roots. Problems won't even develop.

Another very god thing is, that you need to learn to use constructive criticism when you have an actual complaint. Don't just go there and say "Thisandthat sucks ass, I want my money back, shitface.". Go there with the attitude of wanting to show what went wrong and what needs to be done to fix it. "This isn't what I ordered. I ordered onions with that steak, but they are missing. Please add them, before the steak gets cold.". This will take you a long way.

Banning your complaints will also make you work harder. "That box is so heavy and uncomfortable to lift". Fuck that. Exercise more so you can lift heavy, get working gloves with grip, grab that shit and get your work done. You don't get paid for rubbing your ass on chairs.

Seeking for advice now actually becomes seeking for advice and not complaining and asking someone to magically fix your problems. You need to see the points where you need help and ask for particular advice instead of crying.

TL;DR: When you don't have something positive/constructive to say, shut up.

Two last sentences: Also stop complaining about women. Accept who and what they are and deal with them appropriately.

EDIT:

Since I'm not a natural speaker, "complaining" might be a wrong choice of word. "lamenting" fits better. I want to express something along the lines of "pointless lamenting/lamenting for the sake of it".