Straw Game

alanlubbard

February 19, 2013

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Title	Straw Game
Author	alanlubbard
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	February 19, 2013 5:17 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/18trxw/straw_game/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/straw-game.235261 https://theredarchive.com/post/235261

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Fun and humour are largely about surprise. Doing or saying unexpected things. Whatever you're expected to do, you don't do. You're expected to tell the truth - so instead you lie, exaggerate, make stuff up. You're expected to follow the standard social rules - so instead you break them, do outrageous things. You're expected to live in the real world - so instead you role-play, make up imaginary stuff, pretend to be someone you're not. Etc. There are a million different ways to not do the expected thing.

Being an attractive man is largely about being high-status. High-status people can get away with stuff normal people can't - being selfish, narcissistic, mean, etc. High-status people tend to be in positions of authority - teacher/student, big-brother/bratty-little-sister, rock-star/groupie, etc. Again, there are a million different ways of conveying high status.

So being fun in an attractive way is about doing or saying unexpected high-status things. Saying unexpectedly narcissistic things, doing role-play where you're in a high-status role relative to her, etc.

But like you said, there's usually a reason why breaking a social rule isn't normally acceptable. If you do something that's too selfish, too mean, that's going to outweigh the humour and the high-status-signal.

A 2-foot-long straw is unexpected (and therefore funny) all by itself. And stealing a girl's drink is both unexpected (it breaks a social rule that most people follow most of the time) and high-status (it's selfish, the kind of thing that only a high-status person can get away with). And because you're only stealing a little bit of her drink (you're just sipping it through a straw, it's not like you slurped up her entire drink - though I imagine you could get away with that if you've got the balls to stay unfazed when she attacks you for it), the unacceptableness of having her drink stolen is outweighed by the humour and the attraction.

For more examples, see David DeAngelo's "cocky/funny" stuff, etc.

Anyway, that's how I'd explain it to Mr. Spock. :)

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