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The border between persistence and being clingy/oneitis

k_e_o_l

April 27, 2014
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Title The border between persistence and being clingy/oneitis
Author

k_e_o_l

Upvotes 9
Comments 10
Date April 27, 2014 8:07 PM UTC
(12 years ago)
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[–]FortunateBum7 points8 points9 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Plates man, plates. If a woman is giving you any trouble at all, switch your attentions to another plate and cool off before you go back.

[–]gstvtrp 5 points6 points7 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

They can be the same thing, there isn't necessarily a border.

People will use whatever words they want to describe anything and these words can twist and distort reality.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed, persistence with one can be neediness with another. I don't get called needy pretty much ever, but when I do, I lose her number immediately.

[–]RPSavant7 points8 points9 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

persistence is more sexual dynamic... like courtship. clingy is more based on fear of loss.

Totally different.

Persistent if there is mutual attraction. Clingy if one partners holding on to a lost cause.

[–]HULKx2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

im not persistent or clingy...

just talk to enough girls that they keep your attention without much effort on your part.

[–]8898897713 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If an attractive guy texts a girl frequently, he is persistent.

If an unattractive guy texts a girl frequently, he is clingy.

If you'd like to be considered more persistent than clingy, go to the gym/read books/do your hair.

[–]PlusGoody1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Persistence is useful in developing a relationship -- manifests leadership and counters hard-to-get shit tests. It is completely counterproductive in obtaining a relationship: nothing demonstrates lower value more than seeming like you have no options other than her.

[–]fapordie_1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Abandon your scarcity mentality.

"If you feel that you have something to lose with a particular girl, you're no longer spinning plates—you're thinking and approaching dating in terms of exclusivity." - Rollo Tomassi

[–]GuitarHero070 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Always ask yourself, "is this worth my time?" If the answer is "no," then abort. Most of the time, you know the answer to that question.

Always remember that your time precious; when you do that, it's easy to sift out the details.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Persistency is when you try it because you have a good reason to believe that she is actually interested but don't care if it fails.

Oneitis is when you do it multiple times. Do not have options and care about the result.

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