The Four Elements

j_arbuckle2012 · 2013-09-22T18:58:57+00:00

This is feel-good PUA bullshit they use to sell products. It's neither helpful nor productive to circlejerk over advice like this. This is actually very blue-pill because it's solipsism. It goes from "hey you can be different, just do all these things!" Well, alright. But how do I do all of those things in my everyday life so I see real change? "I dunno, be confident!" Okay, so you're basically telling me that some magic amount of "confidence" or "dominance" will immediately make me go from zero-to-hero in a couple minutes? You sure you aren't walking around with a gash between your legs?

Real advice would look like this:

1. Be Fun

Guys who are fun, tend to attract more people. How do you become "fun?" Do things you're excited about doing. Don't get comfortable. Spend an hour and write down all the activities you do in a given week. Then the amount of hours (approx.) you spend doing them. Then rate 'em from 1-5 for how passionate you are about them, how fun they are, and how helpful they are to you and your state of being (physical and mental health, financials, resources, etc), in that order. Discard and replace 1 thing that scored low on all three areas. Then live another week, and review doing the same thing. Do that again and again until you've got a day to day that's fun and productive which you also care about.

2. Be Easy Going

This is a misnomer. Don't be easy going. Be non-reactive. Being easy going implies that you have few, if any, weak personal boundaries. Real men have strong boundaries they upkeep and enforce regularly. Furthermore, being non-reactive means you have a much better clarity and control over your emotional state. That's where the idea of "frame" comes from. How do you gain this emotional clarity? Meditation. Seriously, it's not really bandied around out here in TRP, but meditation works wonders. Meditation helps you see the reality of your existence, both internal and external. How do you start meditating? Read Mindfulness in Plain English and get started: 30 minutes a day, every day. Don't worry that you're not very good at it. Most people aren't, just do it and keep an open mind. Once you've gained a sense of emotional clarity, you will begin to see how your emotions dictate your actions and your reactions to things within and without. So simply put: the greater your emotional clarity/control, the more non-reactive you are, and the more "easy-going" people will think you are.

3. Be Dominant

The best definition I've ever heard for dominant men is: "dominant men dominate their lives." What the fuck does that mean? It means dominant men have large amounts of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is a consistent, every day, forceful exertion of willpower with the intent and aim to improve oneself or one's lot in life. How do you gain self-discipline? Write down all of your flaws, no matter how large or small. Ask others (who know you well) to describe your flaws to you, and write those down too. Trust me, you're far more flawed then you'll ever care to admit so get others in on the action too. Pick one no matter how large or small, and work on it as per the definition above. For me, my flaw was my addiction to nicotine (smoked a pack a day for seven years). So the one thing I did was every morning when I would wake up and I'd get an urge to have a cigarette, I'd take a brutally cold shower and do 15 pushups, 15 situps, 15 squats and 15 horizontal rows instead. I hated it, and I still hate doing morning calisthenics but I don't feel that they're very hard to do now like they were when I first started. I just hop out of bed and do it and go about my day because I've gained that self-discipline to just do it through that consistent, every day, forceful exertion of willpower. Gaining self-discipline is NOT easy. You WILL fail, repeatedly. You will give it up and go back to it and give it up and go back ad nauseum. The most important thing is you keep trying. Self-discipline is built both when you successfully exert that willpower and when you fail and pick yourself back up to try again.

4. Leadership.

Fuck this. Fuck being a leader. Seriously. If you've followed any of the above advice, then you'll be living a life you chose for yourself that challenges you and you're happy with. Fuck being a leader. Lead your own life, and walk your own path. Some will follow you, some will walk beside you, and others will denounce you and everything you stand for. Fuck them, and fuck leadership. Real leaders step up to the plate because they've lived their lives with self-discipline, emotional clarity/control, and passion. Fuck leadership. I'll say it again: Fuck. Leadership. Live your life on your own terms.

EDIT: Wow! Someone gave me gold! Thank you! I didn't think this post would get that kind of attention. Also some spelling errors.

Hormander · 2013-09-22T10:39:50+00:00

Sorry, I thought it was /r/theredpill and not /r/seduction

BTW It's a bad post, because it says what you have to be but not says how to be it.

GaiusScaevolus · 2013-09-22T19:39:04+00:00

Only the PUAvatar could master all four elements, and bring balance to the sexes...

wasabiversace · 2013-09-22T10:19:38+00:00

This sounds like an excerpt from a PUA forum post. Sure this is OC? Forgot to add - good post.

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Title	The Four Elements
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Date	September 22, 2013 8:14 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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