Hello TRP, been reading this subreddit for a while and I decided to provide some discoveries I've made about women through BDSM relationships. I realize that BDSM is not for everybody and I'm not intending this to be a PSA for that kind of lifestyle, rather I want to talk about what I've personally discovered about women through these sorts of relationships (specifically through the relationship I have with my current partner), and also to reaffirm most of what is said here by others regarding the nature of male-female relationships.

First, a little background on me, I am 30 years old and gasp engaged to a 23 year old woman. Many people here are adamantly anti-marriage, but I want to have kids and raise them in a traditional and healthy setting with a stay at home mother.

Our relationship isn't typical. My fiancee willingly and completely submits to me in all areas of life. This is where she and I are the most happy. She is available sexually any way and at any time I like and does what she is told around the house. She craves control...asking permission to use the bathroom, being told what to wear and how to present herself, when to exercize, and what to eat. She sits at my feet when I'm on the couch, and I've trained her in various other behaviors in line with what I enjoy. She is also bisexual and we occasionally will have threesomes with other women.

It took a lot of work to get to this point, and it continues to take a lot of work and attention to maintain our balance, but my responsibility is to both provide for us financially and guide her in a non-selfish and positive manner. On the surface you may be thinking that it would make things easy having a willing slave like this, and you would be correct, but not in the way you may be thinking. It isn't like I can order her around while I lazily indulge in selfish behaviors. She would lose respect for me in a second and it would never work. When I say this lifestyle is easy, it is because my role in our relationship and in life is suited to my masculine nature, while hers is suited to her feminine nature in a very pure way.

By training her over time, communicating with her about her own self discoveries about how being submissive felt to her, we were able to work together to cultivate her natural feminine and submissive desires and she is happier than she has ever been. This has also evolved my masculine / dominant nature and brought me more in tune with that side of myself, making me even more attractive to her. Even if you aren't into the whips and chains, BDSM provides an important insight into the nature of most women. I don't believe that all women are inherently submissive, but from my experience most are.

TLDR: Most women enjoy being dominated to some degree. By cultivating this feeling explicitly with them, they will become increasingly tuned into their feminine nature as you become more in tune with your masculine nature, and a happy and healthy relationship balance can grow out of this.