Introduction:

Blue Pill mythology requires an element of fear to retain its power over people. One of these fears, and a large focus of The Red Pill, is the fear of loss. This post is about identifying and accepting the feelings of loss, and developing strategies to thrive while still in the process of overcoming them.

Do note that while loss can occur in many areas of life, this is specific to loss in relation to women. So plates, FWB's, LTR's, etc..

Body:

The fear of loss is more damaging than the actual experience. This is because fear--much like its Red Pill counter-part, 'dread'--nurtures a sense of scarcity based-dependence. This dependence is a reflection of a person's self-image. Unlike dread, fear is always a hindrance on relationships.

The Blue Pill man will depend on a woman to complete his sense of identity, thus he fears losing her because he fears losing an imagined part of his own self. This fear controls his behavior and his thinking. The Blue Pill man, when confronted with loss (or even the simple notion of it), copes.

The Red Pill man however is at peace with things beyond his control. This is because he does not depend on women (or any exterior things) to contribute to his identity. He is complete without women, and though he is still saddened by loss, he is nonetheless able to thrive while experiencing it.

The key difference is how these men deal with their feelings. Men are indeed romantics, and there are few things more emotionally difficult for a man than to turn his back on a woman in which he has significantly invested. However, sometimes it is necessary to pull the plug -- something only the Red Pill man can do.

After one has overcome the fear of loss and has moved-on to the actual experience of it, they will find an impulse to enter a phase of coping. The strength of this impulse is related to how experienced the individual is at dealing with loss. An individual who has overcome feelings of loss many times in many forms will invariably feel a weaker impulse to enter "coping mode" than an individual who is experiencing feelings of loss for the first time. The process will be difficult for either individual, and no two situations are identical, but the duration of grief can be mitigated by certain things. Here are three examples:

Identify and Accept the Feelings Early

The best preemptive way to deal with loss is to accept that it will inevitably happen in some form. Recognizing this will help overcome the initial feeling of fear of loss. Many Red Pill members advocate stoic philosophy for this reason. I will not beat the dead stoicism horse, but it is worth mentioning.

Also worth mentioning is the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. While not everybody experiences these feelings sequentially, they are the key suspects when dealing with loss. Cognizance of these emotions goes a long way towards inspiring outcome independence and emotional maturity.

The Red Pill is in many respects a pathway to emotional maturity. An emotionally mature individual is able to reflect on their own feelings, allow them to "pass-through", and make their decisions independent of them. Simply put, do not repress or deny or ignore your feelings. You are not a hamster, you are a man.

Avoid Coping

Blue Pill is coping, and coping is frustration. It is denial, anger, bargaining and depression -- but it is not acceptance and it never will be. Do not cope. Remove that word from your repertoire.

Furthermore, do not engage in destructive behaviors to deal with feelings. Drugs, violence, and other 'low-vibration' mechanisms are not solutions. They are vivid distractions, yes, but they will not improve one's emotional state in the long-run.

Everybody has a different tendency when it comes to coping, and everybody has the potential to resort to coping behaviors when experiencing grief. Stay self-aware and abolish any habits that will distract from dealing with feelings properly.

Think Thriving Behaviors

Allowing the negative to pass-through is not enough by itself, as one must always be reinforcing his personal frame with positive energy and abundance. In addition to successfully identifying feelings, allowing them to run their course, and avoiding any coping behaviors--one must continue thriving.

Thriving is what solidifies identity as a man, and consequently is what allows one to be less influenced by his feelings when making decisions. A thriving man will not give up his healthy habits simply because of an emotional setback. He will press-on despite his feelings because he is unplugged.

Unlike coping which emphasizes distraction, thriving emphasizes focus.

How This Relates To Sexual Strategy

When approaching, accept the fact that everybody gets rejected from time to time, so don't let a small loss interfere with the big picture. With plates/ONSs, it's a personal decision to either promote her, keep her spinning at a distance, or next her. Know how much is emotionally tolerable and do not over-commit at the expense of thriving.

With FWBs/LTRs, it's important to come to terms with the fact that loss is inevitable. Even if the relationship is perfectly loyal and monogamous from both parties, random tragedy may occur -- things beyond anybody's control. Otherwise, if the sex disappears, you disappear.

Be ready to deal with the negative feelings of losing a woman, because it will happen eventually, but don't dwell on it. Enjoy the time you have with her in the present, even if it's just for one night.

Always be emotionally independent enough to walk away, and never tolerate disrespect.

Conclusion:

Stay aware of your feelings and don't allow them to influence your thoughts and behaviors.

Coping is a sign of emotional insecurity, whereas thriving is a sign of emotional maturity. If you're not thriving then reflect on the reason why and take the necessary steps to fix the problem before it intensifies.

It's better to experience grief from loss temporarily, than to live in fear of loss indefinitely.

When in doubt, ghost her.

Thanks,

bruh my jays.