Using my redpill rage to better myself

79johnsmith · 2017-01-06T12:57:47+00:00

Going to repost an old gem by Whisper called the five stages of Redpill and how to read TRP txtposts:

I'm probably not the first person to observe that taking the red pill is a gradual process, and that the loss of illusions, like any other loss, initiates a grieving process. But it's worth pointing out that psychology's general "five stages" model of the grieving process applies to TRP.

Denial: "Women aren't like that! They're people just like everyone else! Treat them all as individuals, and you're sure to find the right one!"

Anger: "WTF! Bitches are all like this! They have no honour, no loyalty, and they don't really love anyone but themselves! Fucking cunts!"

Bargaining: "If I work real hard and learn all the pickup moves, then at least I'll get laid."

Depression: "Getting laid by shallow, obnoxious women has become dull and unrewarding. And there's no sense looking for a unicorn. Maybe I'll just be MGTOW for a while."

Acceptance: "Women aren't bad. My expectations of them, and theirs of me, were based on faulty premises. They are creatures of instinct, just like I am... but of different instincts. If I learn what those instincts are, and teach them about mine, we can develop realistic expectations of each other and get along just fine."

If we really want to understand what gets written here, in its proper context, we need to understand that most "Red Pill Theory" posts will belong to one of these five stages. Each stage has value, because to reach a later one, you must go through the earlier ones. And, as in grieving, the progress through is seldom linear, smooth, uniform, and one-directional. But to understand each post in context, it helps to mentally decide which stage it belongs to, and read it with that in mind. This is why concern trolling and tone policing have no place here. Not because extremism is our banner (we have no banner, we are not a crusade), but because venting, discussing and understanding anger is a legitimate part of phase 2. Saying that women aren't worth hanging about with, even for sex, is part of phase 4. If I were to say "don't be so angry" to someone who comes here to say "all women are bitches and whores", then I would be interrupting his process of coming to terms with the loss of his illusions. It would be far better for me to tell him that his feelings are important (because feels actually sometimes are important), and that his anger is not bottomless, and that it will eventually run dry. So when I read a text post here, some red pill theory, some rant, I just say to myself "stage 2". Or "stage 3". Or "stage 5". And then I continue reading. Because they are all useful. Even if I am (mostly) over my own anger, understanding other men's anger helps me, because it teaches me more about where the disconnect between reality and our expectations occurs. But to anyone who doesn't understand that TRP posts come from different stages of the process... well, a lot of what's written here just isn't going to make sense.

alexjsaf · 2017-01-05T20:48:25+00:00

Congrats on quitting smoking and losing the weight, now keep it up or it doesn't mean shit! Also, there is nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship, in fact, you are better off without one and just focusing your attention on improving yourself and fucking as many women as possible.

vagbutters · 2017-01-05T22:15:25+00:00

Sounds like you've come from a shitty household that enabled your poor decisions. That's OK- every path to bettering yourself starts somewhere. Not sure what your height is, but aim for 8-10% bodyfat before you start bulking.

Just remember to focus much more on your diet than the gym. Get enough protein, get fats for satiety, and ditch all junk food. Treat yourself to a cheat day every month or however long you feel that you can ride out your diet before your cravings become unbearable. Just remember to track calories on cheat days, and to not go over your TDEE on them.

A lot of people here emphasize lifting, and they're absolutely right to do so, but do NOT ignore cardio either. It is beneficial not only to your weight loss (increased caloric deficit), but it helps your heart, maybe even your lungs if you have asthma.

As a guy who was in your exact same situation around your age, and lost 100 pounds (and subsequently bulked), I can tell you that by the end of your journey, the difference in sexual attention that you get is night and day.

Title	Using my redpill rage to better myself
Author	Trustedflipper8
Upvotes	13
Comments	3
Date	January 5, 2017 8:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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