I had a smoking hot model for a year and a half… She was hot, smart, fun, chill, down to earth, non crazy, sexy, and provided me the best sex of my life. I’ve had a lot of sex and most women just suck at it, but this bitch was fucking amazing, she was better than the bitches in porn.

She broke up with me a few days ago and I’ve thought long and hard about it and I hope I can provide you guys with some insight that can help you. I’m not going to get into the details because it’s pretty much the same story that I’ve read on here a hundred times, but I’m going to try to cut to the heart of the matter.

I had everything I wanted in a woman, but instead of her living in my life and in my frame I slowly went from my frame to hers. The toughest relationships for men to keep are the ones that they really want. I’ve continually had dimes and after the honey moon phase they eventually lose interest in me.

Well, I’ve given a lot of thought to this cycle and believe on an emotional level where it stems from.

In retrospect, I believe the relationship and attraction would start to crumble when I began to get some of my self worth and validation from being with her, complete BETA mindset.

Because I found her to be inherently worth more than me, I would slowly start to take the validation she would shower me with to heart.

Everyone would always say to me:

“How did you end up with her?”

“This is the most beautiful woman you’ve ever been with.”

Do not under any circumstance let this penetrate your mind, you are a strong alpha male. The bitch is an accessory and you get the best accessories because you are the best man.

She is not the best you can do, say it out loud.

“I CAN DO BETTER.”

SAY IT UNTIL YOU BELIEVE IT.

The flip side to this is you must be living a life that is congruent with that belief, if you are just some piss poor loser this will never work. But we are men we have the ability to build any life we want, so do it.

I would slowly stop working to get my validation from other places. I would really start leaning on the relationship for validation and I would get depressed.

I would start taking edibles and just spend all my spare time playing video games like a complete loser. An entire weekend would fly by and I wasted it all on being high and playing games. I would start to hate myself, have nothing to talk about and her attraction to me was clearly fading.

If you aren’t feeling good then do something about it. Work harder, hit the gym, write, read, make a youtube channel. WHATEVER just have a purpose and drive to your life. Playing games and getting high all the time is only going to fly for a woman if you have way more SMV than her and you both know it.

Prior to this bad bitch I had an LTR for 5 ½ years with a girl with high SMV, but I always thought I was smarter then her so in the back of my mind I thought I could do better.

I broke up with her 2 years ago, but I can tell she still loves me. She lights up when we talk and she told me how her now baby dady loves her more then she loves him. Funny, but it’s a weird experience because she would of never said that when she was with me.

You know why she still loves me? Because I never really got my validation from our relationship because I thought I was better than her. So I always had to get my validation from other parts of my life when I was with her so I was never needy or beta with her. It’s much more difficult to do this with women that you perceive as better then you, because eventually just having them as a possession is validation for your life. This type of validation is fake and bullshit and although you may for a short time use it as a crutch, eventually she’ll get bored of you and why shouldn’t she? You are acting beta and your actions inside and outside of the relationship will also reflect this beta mindset.

Your life needs to be about you, not anyone else ever.

The most red pill thing anyone could do is have a mission for their life and stay on it.

Do you think any woman on the planet would ever get tired of Trump? Do you think he’s ever made a woman his source of validation? Do you think he’s EVER thought a woman was better than him? It’s an extreme example, but it gets the point across. If you aren’t getting your validation from the woman then she will always perceive you as alpha because she knows deep inside that you don’t need her and you will be fine without her.

For most guys this results in them settling because they can never overcome the mental hurdle with women that they perceive to have high SMV. For most men the relationships that last are always where the man is iffy-iffy about the relationship. He can be iffy-iffy for a 50 year marriage and just stay because it’s convenient and easy, he’s alpha to his women but most guys settle out of fear that they can’t do better.

For us Red Pilled guys who really want the best out of life and want the best women it’s a double edged sword because if you label her the ‘best’ or ‘better’ then other women then that can seep into your mind.

The only way I can tell to avoid this trap is by having a mission focused life where you stay focused on obtaining your validation from other areas of your life. This isn’t easy and will never be, but if you want the best then you’ll have to work for it. Very few men just naturally know this and act accordingly.

I have always been a natural with picking up women, it’s just been intuitive for me, but keeping them has always been my struggle.

Learn from my mistakes, you are going to have a lot of opportunities to have amazing women in your life and you should definitely value those opportunities and experiences but realize that the second you value that experience more than you value you yourself is the moment that you will start to lose that relationship.

I’ve only been lurking here for the last 6 months, but it’s blessed me with a ton of self realization and after getting dumped by this dime I think I’ve finally (hopefully) made some emotional progress.

TLDR: Point being this, when you are living a mission focused life the women in your life will see a strong, independent man because that’s what you are. That’s when you will be happiest and when women will find you the most attractive. When you start to get your validation from women they see the needy orbiter beta bitch and in this state you are all of those weak things.

Think Adam & Eve, Adam went from his validation coming from God to seeking validation from Eve. She didn't leave him (no other options), but he did destroy the world.

Remember, when your validation comes from your life mission then you are Alpha, but when your validation comes from women you are Beta.

For us men who seek high value women this is not easy, but nothing great in this life comes easy.

“Neo, sooner or later you’re going to realize, just as I did, that there’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.” ― Morpheus