Motivation for this post is huge amount of guys on TRP and askTRP who point huge importance of "mentality of a valuable man". We see countless questions on askTRP "my gf is doing something shitty what should I tell her? how should I enforce the boundary? whats the redpill response?" Then we see a lot of answers who are kinda molded in thought that "you are the prize" here is the thing: if guy A is valuable and girls treat him shitty, he rarely or never gets laid and when he does its usually transactional, duty sex then the answer to his problem is that he should stop investing too early and too often, he should enforce boundaries and be ready to leave if his woman cross them. He was investing and sacrificing for his gf and wasnt getting anything of the same value in return. He was playing by old rules. For that guy, change of mentality and stopping investing in his shitty gf and instead focusing value he has on other aspects of his life is showing message "If you dont add value to my life I am out" When guy B who has low value tries to do the same it only makes things worse. He was nice and respectful loser before TRP but now he is still a loser who is just a jerk. When he enforces boundaries his woman wont respect his boundary so she will either admit that because she thinks he is such a loser who cant get anythign better so its not a big deal even if he breaks up with her or she will pretend that she is respecting his boundary while crossing it and doing a better job hiding because she wants free meals, attention,money or whatever keeps her with that man. Thats one of the biggest mistake which newcomers do. They read, hear that they shoudnt treat women ecepcionally well and that girls like "assholes" and then they make 180 rotation from nice to being actual assholes . not playful,teasing assholes girls like. legit jerks. Girls will behave themselves with a guys who have power to walk away.She always need to have at the back of her mind that if she doesnt give her best you are done with her. Guys who can walk away are guys who have options. Guys who have options are VALUABLE guys. Not the guys who have most witty, red pill responses. Value is absolutely the only thing that matters when it comes to women. What makes a man valuable is already well defined on the sidebar. Being good looking, socially connected, fun guy with cool hobbies, perspective in life is man with generally awesome life. That man has value. I would like to add that value also matters on peception of a girl. If below average looking girl with no social circle sees a guy who has some nerdy friends but is fun and kinda attractive to her she will percieve him as high value.if slutty-party girl sees the same guy she will percieve him as low value man because she wont accept anything but the top 20%. Value of a man depends on age and social factors of a girl. college girls will value more looks and social circle than status itself while post wall women will put more point on status. Very,very few guys need to change mentality to get laid. Huge amount of them need to become valuable men in order to get laid. So next time when you are in situation where your gf/plate/etc behaves shitty you dont look for magic combination of redpill words and behaviours that will unlock her panties and gain your respect back(or create it if you didnt have any). Instead you try to become the kind of man who can attract better women than your current. you dont try to find right amount of redpill words that will keep you with that same bitch of a gf. Even when you behaved all redpill, put yourself first and bla bla it doesnt mean shit.if you were a valuable man you could get away with all crap possible, tell her that you love her 50 times a day while you text her for 5 hours straight she will still fuck you at the end. Because you are valuable man. if you are low value, you can behave stoic, put yourself first, try to behave in a confident way you are still not getting laid. Because you put mentality first instead of value.