I was out drinking with a friend the other night and the importance of pleasing the girl in bed came up. He argued that pleasing a girl in bed isn't important and that's a beta mindset. This opinion always surprises me. I feel that once a guy gets in bed with the girl he rarely puts any effort into making sure she enjoys herself too. I'm not saying give the girl a back rub or anything, but I think there are many over looked reasons why pleasing a girl in bed is important:

1) She will want to have sex again. This is the most obvious. If she enjoys it she is much more likely to come back. Spinning a plate is a lot easier than picking someone up each night.

2) Girls talk. For those of you who sleep with a girl and move on and therefore think that pleasing a girl doesn't matter, think again. You think girls like a player, girls love a player who their friend fucked and can't stop talking about how good the sex was. In college I had girls' friends approach me at parties after sleeping with their friends. A good reputation goes a long way. And conversely, a bad reputation can mean no sex from any girl in a whole social group.

3) No one likes a dead fish. I prefer sex where the girl is loud, dirty, and into it. If she isn't enjoying it, I doubt she will be very much of any of these.

4) The sex gets better. The first time you hook up with a girl the sex usually isn't too kinky. You go through a few of the basic positions, maybe a little bit of dirty talk, but that's about it. After a night or two though, if the sex is good, she'll be open to experimenting. All of the threesomes I've had have been with girls I hooked up with a few times before. I've had girls dress up for me in school girl outfits, new lacey lingerie, and even gone over for dinner to find one in nothing but an apron and high heels. How do you say, totally worth.

5) Helps support frame. Who doesn't feel like a boss when the girl gushes about how good the sex is? Just like how TRP advocates spinning plates because, among many reasons, it allows you to be nonchalant when talking to new women. You can feel confident because you know you can supply what she wants and it is she who needs to convince you to give it to her. If she is the one asking for sex what power does she have over you?

Anyways, would love to hear your thoughts.