Been several weeks since a post here about how to rebuild from a pretty fucked break up. Took it down from some doxxing edits, but will repost og below.

Just wanted to say I appreciated the advice, focusing on some side bar basics helped me calm down and become less emotional. There’s some healthy stuff people had to say about focusing on my self (not the anti women stuff) and how to get over a betrayal of a loved one (which we all go thru).

For real, this was the only community with helpful advice. Anyways, here’s been my takeaway from TRP resources and what’s helped.

  • Acceptance: I see that tho the pain is real and is from having trusted someone intimately then having been betrayed deeply, it is temporary
  • Vulnerability: I see now that there is no benefit to being vulnerable with a partner. At best, you open yourself to judgement, and at worst it can be used to fuck you up. Never again
  • TRP: Becoming a better and more fulfilled guy should never be sacrificed and should include more than your career
  • Developing skills: having many interests makes you interesting (for me this is photography, futures trading, making bread + pizza, my dog)
  • Relationships: make sure you have friends you can call when shit hits the fan
  • Lifting: never stop
  • Life goals: never stop

Please comment if you have anything I missed or would be helpful to add.

——

OG

I got fucked hard. Fucking wake up call. Fuck being a beta cuck. GF of 4 years cheated on me with the guy who homewrecked my last relationship. She knew about it, and all trauma associated with it and chose to participate. Lied about it for the next week, with me, acting loving and kind, initiating sex (she was really fucking turned on), lying through her teeth until the confrontation when she veered from “don’t leave” to literally leaving me and the dog we raised together for 3Y for new guy. Packed up and moved out with the dog 2k miles away. New guy is more accomplished than me, better connected in career choice. I work my ass off, but this is not enough because I prioritized the relationship like a beta cuck. Fuck that and fuck explaining to any partner your trauma or experiences, as there is some fucking twisted shit that will come back to bite you. After confrontation, she called for the dog back. I said fuck that, you want the dog, break everything up with the guy, come to where I’m at and try to make amends with me and MAYBE you can have the dog. She refused, called me emotionally abusive, and blocked me on everything. Looking back I: * Prioritized the grind over everything else * Stopped going to gym * Was still attentive to dog and her * Was more focused on my shit than hers * Was stressed sizeable amount of time