All the women I meet who deem me a potential mate always end up asking me these questions within the first hour of the interaction.

  • What do you do?

  • What are some of your hobbies/interests?

  • What's your living situation?

Girls aiming for a long term mate want to see how you answer these three questions to determine your SMV.

Disregarding any quick pump and dumps you will have to pass a threshold within these three questions.

If you find yourself talking to a 9 then you're probably going to have to have a lifestyle answering like:

"I'm a photographer that gets paid for what I do. Most of my friends are within that circle and I live right here in the middle of the city."

Shows you're independent, have wealth, have a network of friends, and a potential for fun. You'd probably pass.

If you failed on any one of the above three questions she probably disqualified you from her own interest and will go to the next potential guy.

So the solution is to grab a lifestyle that easily allows you to thrive if "interviewed" with these questions or lower your standards a bit to where girls will respect potential and/or slight flaws.

For example if you live with the parents to take care of them you can reframe that for some girls by showing her you have a sense of community with a bigger family and maybe she never really felt that so she likes that instead.

TLDR: If you want model looking girls you better have a lifestyle that makes models want you. If you want cute plates you better have a lifestyle that allows cute plates.

Your SMV is divided into four parts:

  • Charisma/game
  • Lifestyle/reputation
  • Money
  • Looks

Looks wise I'd probably say I'm a 5 actually, average height, non-white. I don't make a lot of money yet although good ambitions so I'll leave that as a 5-6. I have a quiet lifestyle so probably a 3-4, probably a bit more relaxed than a lifestyle that could be full of plates. My game is probably an 8 or 9 since this alone landed me a cute 7.

Considering my life above, could I get more than a 7? Probably not because I don't have the SMV to get the 8s 9s and 10s. I also don't care enough to make my SMV higher to get more 7s or replace this girl with a higher quality girl. It's good enough for me.

Everything is context. I knew a guy who was 9 in looks, 6ft+, buff, and partied with models. He could easily sleep with these models because his game, looks, and status were all above average but could never date any of them because he only made 5 figures which is below average. For models all 4 aspects must be above average.

So consider if you want to put the work into becoming a higher SMV to get models, or using game to talk with women and landing an occasional 7.

If you're 5'5 and don't have your life together, you probably must accept the best you can do right now is about a 6 even with legit game.

If you're 6'0 and have a 6 figure income then you could probably get a few 8s in rotation.

Use SMV to determine where you want to go with yourself.