You cannot negotiate feelings

You can only manipulate them. [1]

My fellow Men -

By nature we negotiate. We negotiate business deals, car purchases, home purchases, cellphone plans, if there is an angle for negotiation, we naturally jump on the opportunity to bargain. When the goal is simple, and the payouts low, most here will resort to base tactics, attempting to emotionally justify, that 'everyone wins'. I used to sell cars, it was confusing when customers happily agreed to the midpoint of our price difference as we salesman knew we'd be working from the midpoint down.

Negotiations, in general, are about reconciling differences in a thoughtful, intelligent manner. Usually a checklist of must haves, ok having, and not ok having. We work with fellow Men and their lawyers & try to predict future issues, often setting up clear guidelines in how to deal with them in advance. If you've ever seen a purchase & sale agreement of a business, or even boilerplate home sales, behind the scenes were series of Negotiations.

So when your plate, FWB, LTR, Wife, comes to you with issues, whether logical or completely emotional, the fool responds by turning on his natural base negotiation tactics.

Do I look pretty in this yellow dress? Responds honestly

You should cuss less. Goes into scientific mode & responds how cussing is a sign of trust

Can we take a break? Why? Did I do something wrong? I'll be better, I promise. I'll try.

My fellow Men -

You cannot negotiate feelings. You can only manipulate them. Don't resort to Man-speak, where words & facts are your sword and shield - useless, in the presence of the Feminine. Target & work with the underlying feelings. No negotiation

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[1] IllimitableMen.com