YOU MUST BE ASSERTIVE.

TomDemian · 2015-08-16T16:28:59+00:00

Was the lack of capital letters a test? Is everyone supposed to be assertive and tell you to stop doing that?

epistemic_humility · 2015-08-16T16:01:01+00:00

Good post OP, assertiveness used to feel uncomfortable for me. But since swallowing the pill I've been leaps and bounds more confident and its starting to come more naturally.

Quick example: I recently canceled my lifetime membership (starting at a boxing gym that has weights) they gouged me with fine print and two additional months because I canceled on the fourth not the first of the month.

It's safe to say I was disgruntled. I said something along the lines of

'Maybe I'll just cancel the card then.'

Towel folding guy next to the manager interrupts saying '100 dollars isn't really worth canceling a card'

I snap back. 'Are you in an position to decided what things are worth to me.'

Manager treated me WAY different after that comment, immediate respect. He even apologized for the interruption and we went back to his office to finish chatting.

tl;dr don't sign a lifetime fitness contract.

Edit: I feel like this was assertive because I didn't want to be interrupted so I said something about it.

joshsoowong · 2015-08-16T15:12:39+00:00

I had to be assertive last week. I felt great after I told the guy not to seat in my seat. Afterwards it made me question him. Like what kind of man was he? Was he trying to test me or something? This post is a confirmation to me about setting boundaries.

VirgoRooster · 2015-08-19T01:31:35+00:00

"Beep beep"

"No SpongeBob not insertive... assertive!"

Anyway, yea, good post.

rporion · 2015-08-16T20:12:17+00:00

I can say no.

Even to women.

May not sound like much, but I can say no even if they cry or beg!

Don´t know how assertive that makes me, but it seems to be enough.

OrangeCub · 2015-08-16T21:27:17+00:00

Be assertive, cool. But why? To be able to stand for what you believe and how you envision your world to be. Why? Because you have respect for yourself, who you want to be and what you want to achieve. Why? Because this is your life and you are here, so you want your experience to be amazing.

This is why you should be assertive and have personal boundaries. So that others will not mess with all the aforementioned.

Title	YOU MUST BE ASSERTIVE.
Author	TOMMMMMMY
Upvotes	10
Comments	11
Date	August 16, 2015 2:47 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3h7cjv/you_must_be_assertive/
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