Men and Women; Know the Difference

As we all know women love to chase the “bad boy,” the “thug,” and other variations of the kind of guy that will leave them holding a baby and unlimited emotional debt. And, based on modern dating standards we all know that women will jump right back on the CC hours after giving birth or after a bad break up to find another cock to fill her void. That is how women are programmed there is nothing anyone, especially women, can or will do about it.

If their behavior can’t be changed and there’s no hope, what’s the point of this post? You must become the man women want to fuck, and you must commit to never committing to a relationship. No matter how you cut it women are a net loss. You will always put money in and get negative returns. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work to improve yourself and become the kind of man who attracts women.

Women are Born, Men are Made

There are several things you can do to make yourself more attractive to women. These are not PUA or OLD dating strategies nor do they guarantee you’ll be getting laid. I am going to lay out my strategy for self-improvement that has bolstered my confidence, my finances, and keeps my mental health in check.

Women are born with it. In the 21st Century, any woman at any time can post a picture on the internet and get oodles of undeserved, unsolicited positive feedback. Women exist in a shallow vacuum being driven by men who simply want to get laid holding out false hope that a woman will notice when they offer some kind of compliment, slide into their DMs, donate money, or hit the like button (spoiler alert: they don’t notice, nor do they care because you don’t matter).

Men don’t have their own personal self-esteem generator. It must come from within. Effort and discipline are the qualities a man needs to possess and constantly develop to earn the kind of confidence women are attracted to.

Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day

Exercise is fundamental. It is the foundation of your physical and mental health. Without it, your body and mind are slowly withering away until you are consumed by disease mental and/or physical. Exercise doesn’t mean you need to be in the gym 6 hours a day doing CrossFit and drinking protein shakes with the “bros.” It means 30 minutes a day committed to physical activity. If you’re not the social type or a gym membership is outside of your budget, I have great news for you. You don’t need a gym! Go outside. You see that stuff your standing on? It’s called the ground. You can jog/walk on it all you want, your taxes paid for it. Take advantage. Do you know that the ground is also good for? Push-ups and planks. The good news? You don’t have to leave home to do them. And, if you’re feeling super saucy you can download any of the thousands of exercise apps or watch exercise routines on YouTube to help you get started. Results aren’t going to happen overnight. But consistency and effort will pay off.

An Army Marches on its Stomach

Food is the fuel that drives us. We can’t exist without it. The problem is cheap, shitty food is abundant while healthy options are expensive because of bullshit marketing strategies. But there are ways to eat healthy on a budget. Some years ago, I bought a crockpot. It has since become the most used appliance in my kitchen. I buy cheap cuts of meat, ground beef, chicken and lots of beans and fresh vegetables that go in said crockpot and provide me with a week of high protein, low carb meals. Fresh, non-organic marketed, bulk vegetables from your local supermarket are cheap and abundant. For less than $10 a week you can make four large or eight small salads to eat as bulk while you cook dinner. Salads are remarkably simple. Buy raw veggies you like, chop them up, put them in a bowl, and eat.

Changing eating habits is one of the hardest things we can do. So, don’t crash diet, don’t empty your cabinets and replace it with the food you’ll never eat. Gradually incorporate healthy foods into your regular diet and slowly wean yourself off junk food that’s high in carbs and sugar. There are no miracle foods that can prevent disease nor are their foods that make you lose weight. It’s all about the calories and finding the right combination for yourself.

The Get Rich Slow Scheme

Money. It’s a necessary evil and will never go away. If you want to survive and be comfortable, you’re going to need it. But, how do you get more? There are several ways that don’t include pursuing a liberal arts degree to the tune of $100K or selling yourself on the internet. Learn a skill. Don’t know what skill to learn or how to get started? Google trade schools in your area. Most are affordable for the average person and are much cheaper than college. You’re going to have to do your own research to figure out what program and school are right for you. Working in the trades may not be something you want to do in the long run. But they will provide for you so you can pursue other things, like college for instance which can be completed online, at your own pace, and on a budget, you can afford so you don’t sink into debt.

Investments. They should be a part of your budget along with rent and entertainment. If you aren’t sure how to invest or where to start research mutual funds. They are cheap to get into and are a reliable source of compounding interest. Generally, the more you invest the bigger the return, but the numbers fluctuate. I’ve been investing in mutual funds for quite some time and have enough saved that I can retire at 55 and live comfortably on my current budget until well into my 80s. Since I have no children or spouse to support all of that money is going to be used for my own comfort and quality of life.

The Long and Short

I kept this post vague on purpose. There is no universal solution that’s going to work for everyone. These are the things I do in my day-to-day life that have contributed to my personal happiness. Nothing I do has anything to do with meeting or fucking women. Being able to swipe right, go on dates, and get laid with relative ease is a fringe benefit of leading a life of effort and discipline.

Good luck gentlemen. The pursuit of happiness is not an easy path with no end. You have to continuously find ways to motivate, challenge, and take care of yourself. But, it's worth it. My ability to change jobs, locations, and live the life I choose has more value than any woman could ever hope to provide.