Introduction

It is normally my habit to focus on the Disturbing aspects of the modern world. But this is a post of hope and good news! I would like to present some simple math for good men.

First, let's start off with a concept from Finance and Economics:

Nominal vs Real Numbers.

You are probably familiar with interest rates. When you save money in the bank for example, you earn interest. The stated interest rate can be shown in several ways. One is the nominal (stated) rate, the other is the APR. I will leave this to you to investigate. But the more interesting number is your actual rate of return. In order to get this rate of return on your investment, you must take inflation into account.

So, for example, if you were to earn a 2% interest per year, but inflation happens to be 2%, then you have gained nothing. You earned 2% and inflation too that away. Now this is not a bad or a good thing - it's just how we find out the REAL rate of return on this particular investment.

The same holds true in the dating world. A lot of people think there are a lot of other people with whom they could partner. But the truth is that this is often just the NOMINAL dating pool. A man should not be interested in that pool because it is not real. Once you start digging down, you start to approach the REAL or actual dating pool.

The Math

So let's dig into this. This screenshot of an Excel sheet helps, so check it out.

In my area, there are just under 1 million people. These are humans with whom I could easily interact within about a 10-15 minute drive. I live near a major metropolitan area, so I could easily quadruple this number, but I am being conservative for the sake of illustration.

Let's break this down:

  • Half of population are men, so they are out (I am straight, if you are bisexual or "other", then adjust accordingly)
  • 90% of them are going to be too old, too young, married, obese, on drugs, tatted up. 90% are not going to work for me right off the bat. That leaves 50k
  • Of this group, I assume that 90% of them don't want ME for one or more reasons. My dick is too big, I am too handsome, etc. That leaves me with 5k women who would fit perfectly for me, and I fit perfectly for them.
  • Let's finally assume that 99% of these women will just not cross my path of they are just out of, or perhaps just starting a relationship even though they are technically available. Or maybe they just live north of me and I rarely go there. Or we cross paths and look at each other, but I was distracted and didn't think to say "Hello". You get the idea, 99% are out due to random chance or other circumstances.

That leaves 50 women who are a fit for me, I am a fit for them, they are the appropriate age range, and available, and decent women - AND we cross paths from time to time. Whether you are online, on an app, or just in real life, this math still holds. Either way, this is my actual or REAL dating pool.

Knowing what we know about hypergamy and the stats on who initiates divorce and breakups most often, we know that even if we found one of these women, it would not last forever. In the UK, the average romantic relationship lasts about 2 years and 9 month.. Since this is America and not the UK, and because I am an optimist, let's just call it 3 years.

Now, if you could actually meet and date each one of these women, this would keep you occupied for 150 years!

That's right men. Based on this rough math, the average man can reasonably expect to have a lifetime of perfect partners - you will NEVER be able to get through all the women in your actual dating pool.

Conclusion

No matter how bad a relationship has been in the past for you. No matter how bad your divorce was. No matter how AWALT women may be, there is a pool of women in your area (I know how that sounds) who are worth a shot. Before you go off half cocked on this, please keep in mind the following:

  • I do not agree that AWALT literally. But I am 100% certain that any woman COULD be like the rest. So proceed with this in mind.
  • Women leave. They test you, they cheat, and they keep other men on the back burner - beta orbiter or otherwise. Never forget this.
  • Modern women have pretty much dictated their terms and condition in the RMP, and the driving paradigm seems to be Serial Monogamy. Factor that into your expectations.
  • Keep in mind, you can adjust this up or down based on your own circumstances. For example the best looking men in my area could easily attract more of the 50k women than the average or unattractive man. So mileage may vary.

This math leads to one simple conclusion: No matter what you may feel for one woman, no matter how magical or special she may be, and no matter how deeply you love the woman you are with (or are pining for), there are at LEAST 50 others in your area (again, adjust the math for your own circumstances). Even if that number is 5, then you have about 15 years to get through all of them.

And even if you did, by the time you ended the l last relationship, a few more will have come on the market due new women moving to the area, divorce, death of spouse, etc.

Never let yourself become a slave to your "perfect" woman. There are several others just waiting for you to make the first move.

Cheers!