When differences >> dread

RookieMRP · 2016-03-02T04:13:11+00:00

You have presented a simple decision. Without more context, I doubt you can get anything but simplistic, narrowly defined suggestions. My suggestion is just say no. Maybe you would tell us more…..

[deleted] · 2016-03-02T11:29:46+00:00

Forget dread - this situation calls for assertiveness and clear communication. Outline your vision.

If you want to apply the sidebar books, then read WISNIFG and How to Win Friends and Influence People. A gross oversimplification of the interaction would be to acknowledge her desire, outline your vision for the family, and clearly state your bottom line without getting angry. She is entitled to want another child. You are entitled to not want another child. They are both reasonable positions for an adult to take, so disappointment is reasonable, but rage and manipulation are not.

If you want sex and she doesn't, then what happens? You don't get sex. So, you find MRP, fix yourself, fix your life, and then she might want to have sex with you. If she still doesn't, and that's an important issue for you, then you may decide to get sex outside the marriage and/or get divorced.

If she wants a kid and you don't, then what happens? She doesn't get to have another kid with you. So, the two of you fix yourselves and fix your lives. Maybe things improve to a point where you do want another kid, or maybe they don't. If not, then she can choose to end the marriage and have a kid with someone else.

Redneck001 · 2016-03-02T19:21:16+00:00

I think when you say no, you feel guilty.

If only there was a book about how to say no and not feel guilty.

ParadoxThatDrivesUs · 2016-03-02T05:51:19+00:00

Are you asking if you should have the kid, or are you saying you've already decided not to and you're asking how to implement dread in light of that decision?

Griever114 · 2016-03-02T12:31:55+00:00

I really dont see how there is any room for interpretation on this one:

"SAY NO"

You are not her personal sperm donor.

JUST.

SAY.

NO.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-02T16:54:12+00:00

My thoughts so far are that the normal dread rules don't apply.

From my book Saving a Low Sex Marriage: A Man's guide to Dread, seduction, and the long game

So let us be clear and distinguish (again) between withholding affection, and withholding time and attention. You withhold “Affection” and “Presence” by leaving and not taking your phone and by acting cold and aloof and by actively demonstrating your displeasure. You withhold your “Time” and “Attention” by leaving and/or ignoring because you are busy. These are two very different tactics so be aware and pay attention to what you are doing.

I think you can withhold time and attention for any behavior that displeases you, but I think you ONLY withhold affection and presence for hard sexual denials, and ONLY for sexual denials, not for Shit Testing, being bitchy, rude, or things like refusing to go on a diet, refusing to get an abortion or any other reason. Withholding affection in such cases has very limited success. Dread Game works for sex, and it works because the one thing she controls is sex, and the only thing you have in your control is your commitment. So if she plays her one "mean" card, then you are forced to play your one "mean" card. Read up on “Shit Tests” and “Holding Frame” for dealing with a bitchy, rude woman and reserve Advanced Dread Game for sexual denials.

[deleted] · 2016-03-02T21:09:55+00:00

But my improvements don't matter. Only the 3rd baby does.

To her right? Obviously you are talking about what matters to her.

Do you matter to her?

This is not really dread time . This is boundary and adult time.

You do not want a third kid. She does. Guess what, it takes two. Get a vasectomy if you do not want any more kids .

I am improving and focusing on MAP. But my improvements don't matter...

covert contract much?

remember child>>>>>>man

WhiteTrashKiller · 2016-03-03T05:43:12+00:00

If you are smart you will use this time of no sexual contact to get your ass snipped lickety split. As it was mentioned get a vasectomy before you end up paying for a third kid.

She wants one and the biological clock overrules any semblence of logic during ovulation. Turn up the wick on your dread machine. You aren't getting any anyway, go out and have some platonic fun while spending quality time without her. She won't know either way and keep the V to yourself. Dont play the trump card until you need it.

Title	When differences >> dread
Author	RookieMRP
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	March 2, 2016 3:53 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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