I have two plates that I’ve been spinning for so long they might as well be LTR’s. They’re both approaching the wall, and I’m feeling guilt over eating up their fertility window. I don’t really want to commit when I’m 27.

I’ve been up front and open about not committing since the beginning, but I didn’t explicitly let them know about each other. They found out about each other through social media, I also accidentally took one out to a date where the other girl was already at, and they had a cat fight. It’s a miracle I’ve kept this together. Girl 2 hasn’t tolerated my bullshit, and has walked away then come back twice.

Girl 1: She’s 30 going on 31 in a few months, and I’d rate her a 6. We’ve known each other for 6 years, since college. She’s been ride or die loyal to me through some very harsh times, like unemployment and multiple surgeries. She’s also fun to talk with and gets my sense of humor. We enjoy each other’s company. The downside is that she isn’t very attractive compared to girl 2 or my average pull after hitting the gym regularly. This makes sex with her not very appealing. I can probably bust once and then I’m done for the night. She’s actively working on losing weight and has seen great progress, but it never seems like enough for me. She isn’t looking to get married till she’s 32-33 but I don’t want to burn her time. I’m not sure if I’ll come around to marrying her, and I’ve communicated that to her, but she wants to stay.

Girl 2: She’s just turned 29 and I’d rate her an 8. We’ve been dating for 2.5 years. She’s just as loving but we’re not as in sync. She cooks great healthy meals, is much fitter (into Soul Cyle and Barry’s.) Guys are constantly competing to get her, which is annoying but flattering. I can’t go out without someone eyeing her, or approaching her when I go to the bathroom. The sex with her is 3-4x in a single night and some of the best in my life. The downside is that I don’t get along with her quite as well since she’s lacking in personality. She’s excessively SJW, but submissive in bed and looks like a girly girl. She’s still an Ivy League graduate and by no means stupid.

I get that looks will fade, but my lizard brain can’t get over how much hotter girl 2 is. I’ve had to pull crazy creative ways to get out of Valentine’s Day (travel.) Anything I do with one girl is posted to her social media for the other one to see. I’m giving up potential dates because I can’t keep up with 2 LTR’s, gyming, friends, and hobbies. This is all going to come to a head when I go on a high profile week long vacation with Girl 1, and I expect another ultimatum from Girl 2.

Should I keep girl 1, girl 2, let both go, or keep this up till it crashes?