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I am 25 years old male, never been kissed and obviously a virgin.

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I was born into a very religious family. Jehovah Witnesses are more conservative and controlling than your average Sunday church and I am not sure how I can communicate just how overbearing this religious life is, just take a look at exjw sub.

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My life has been isolated and unorthodox for the following reasons:

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1 - Being home schooled throughout my childhood. No school. No college.

2 - My entire social circle consists of local church members.

3 - Constant moving from country to country and living in isolated areas.

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=== Personality issues

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In addition I have always been very agreeable and non-confrontational. I let others walk all over me. I don't stand up for myself if it means rocking the boat. A people-pleaser. I am not a bad looking guy. I have had and do get plenty of IOI's. I was always too timid or pathetic to ever act on them.

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=== Other issues

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- Low income (about £8,000 a year)

- No drivers license (taking lessons atm)

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=== Background

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I lived from age 17 to 23 in the South of France with my younger sister and parents. For the first 4 and 1/2 years in a two bedroom flat where my social circle consisted almost entirely of the 30 strong local congregation of retired expat Jehovah's Witnesses. Then when I was 21 my father died and I was in a terrible position financially and socially. At least I learned to code.

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At that point my Mom, sister and I moved in with a 75 year old member of our local congregation and we stayed with her, in France, for the next year and a half. I had no income during that time and it was truly the low point in my life.

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Of course the perfect toxic outlet for all of this has been Video Games and the Internet - both on which I have wasted an incredible amount of time.

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=== Current situation

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I moved, with my family, back to the UK about a year and a half ago. I live with my Mom and Sister and we all chip in to household expenses. Currently my entire social life revolves around my religion which I don't believe in any more. I don't go out to clubs or bars. I never have in my entire life. I don't get opportunity to meet potential partners.

(Girls who are in this religion don't fuck around. There is too much social/religious pressure if they fuck up they are socially/emotionally stoned by the community. As a result the good ones get married before 20. There's no fooling around.)

I still have to look after my sister and mother. They are 100% invested in this religion. If I leave I lose everything.

I feel like the above has weighed me down and set me back so much with regards to my SMV. I simply don't have the experience that someone of my age should have. I don't expect normal healthy girls to understand any of this struggle or where I am coming from.

I want to blame my parents, this fucked up religion. But really the worst of it all is my pussy procrastinating attitude that has got me nowhere.

I wake up tired. At work I'm tired. When I have a day off I will sleep very late and do nothing with the day. I don't enjoy my hobbies like I used to. I browse reddit/youtube aimlessly. Even sticking to my workout schedule takes all the willpower I can muster.

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=== The path

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As I see it the only way forward is to continue lifting (been doing so since January) and possible join a gym, increase my income, speak to as many people as possible outside of my religion, possibly move to a bigger city. Journal every day. Get a drivers license. Practice assertiveness. I already feel moving back to the UK has been a very positive move.

I feel like I could read the sidebar all day but I am so tired of reading. I want to learn through real life practice. I'm done with reading.

Sometimes I just can't believe how ridiculous my situation is. And I blame myself and my weak attitude entirely.

What would you do in my situation?