Afraid to seek help for depression

LoverRomeox · 2021-03-17T06:44:52+00:00

1.Quit doing drugs including porn+fapping. Drug use destabilizes your brain chemistry. People with depression already have unstable chemistry and drug use exacerbates it. Higher highs, lower lows. Seek to find balance. 2. Exercise, any kind, walking, running lifting naturally boosts endorphins in your body, the feel good chemicals. 3. Sleep, maintain a sleep schedule, consistently get the amount you need to function properly 3.1 diet/nutrition - what you eat affects your mood, eat garbage feel like garbage, food affects your brain, your gut is your bodies second brain, your microbiome is probably hell, probiotics, greens + fruits, lean meats, find what works for you 4. Meditate, cultivating awareness and presence will allow you to observe and detach yourself from negative emotions and thought loops, it's a lifetime practice, you get what you put into it, the immediate benefit you get from it is a short sense of relief, in the long run your brain shape will start to change due to neuroplasticity, look up the science, aim for 100 hours seated time. Look up the science, app: insight timer 5. Routine, set goals for yourself, a man derives most of his pleasure from doing shit and getting shit done, accomplishments and growth. Be on your purpose. Your purpose could be doing most of your routine. Doesn't have to be anything crazy, do your duty. Like Jordan Peterson says pick a load and carry it. You choose the burden you bare, that's the freedom. That's why people use video game as escapes, they give you a purpose and sense of accomplishment through achieving goals/completing missions 6. Your brain is still growing and changing significantly, for some people their prefrontal cortex only fully grows in their late/ early 30s. 7. Find a therapist, someone you can talk to who can objectively look at your situation and give you perspective. Think of them as a coach. Since you already pay out for tuition you should have access to mental health services. 8. Delete social media for three months, you can't tune into what you want if you keep getting bombarded by external stimuli, you're trying to be someone you're not and it's fucking you up, you won't miss anything really. 9. Read books, learn about neurochemistry, learn about diet, read biographies of others who lived great lives (hint: they weren't spending their time on social media, they were busy on their own hustle, and just living their life).

this is all a lifetime of work, pick something and start, microadjustmemts and fine tuning, start small, I will meditate 5 minutes today, you build a house brick by brick. Why me? Why can't I drink and do drugs and still function like others. Because you can't. The end. You're not them. You're you, you're depressed, and you hate your life. Stick to the narrow path. You wont regret it when you're 30.

benhurensohn · 2021-03-17T05:53:33+00:00

It's totally okay to open up to friends and family. They have bouts of depression too. Nobody is going to shame you for it

Toifamu · 2021-03-17T06:28:18+00:00

Try out redlight therapy. I Watched a video on youtube saying that it might help (channel:what i've learned). Aside from that if you dont want to share it with family and friends, try therapy group or change your habit. Depression can come in many forms, for some it's hormonal, for some it's because of lifestyle reasons. Best of luck.

lieutenantdong · 2021-03-17T22:01:11+00:00

Im not qualified to talk about depression in detail. However, there are patterns/common anecdotes, including my own depressive periods, that have things in common.

What they all include is an over abundance of our needs (food, water, heat) and lack of purpose/passion (for example putting on 10lbs of muscle, learning an martial art, drawing, making an app).

Was listening to a podcast about depression being your body's way of saving energy for when you are without abundance/the need to hunt. Dont know the merits of that but feels right to me.

My lowest points were when i was sat around jerking it, playing games, a dead end job, prioritising girls above myself.

I havent had a bad day in a long while and that goes hand in hand with becoming obsessed with lifting, bjj and learning new things. A good group of friends also goes along way. We are social creatures afterall.

Try to find a small passion to get into. Somethingthat promotes growth whether its physical, intelligence or emotional satisfaction. It will transform you.

2021-03-17T06:15:42+00:00

How are you doing full time job and college at the same time?

michael1962-01 · 2021-03-17T08:43:39+00:00

Change nutrition. Go zerocarb and omit plant matter.

Do some fasting weeks.

Look it up.

pmultiplyb · 2021-03-17T10:27:08+00:00

You will crack, maybe not tomorrow maybe not this year but if you have depression you will crack. Sorry to say this but to give you some insight. You are maybe able to handle this on your own but there comes a time in your life when you have so much shit going on that you can't handle it on your own anymore. My advice is that you talk to a therapist before this happens because it will hit you like a train you didn't see coming. You can rule this scenario out before it even happens when you talk to someone who can help you. Nobody needs to know that you seek professional help but life gets tough for anyone in certain times and getting back up when the train hits you will be more though than you can now imagine.

TeddyMGTOW · 2021-03-17T11:48:45+00:00

In terms of drinking, from a grassroots approach, people have had success from AA group meeting. Google your local area for meeting schedule.

Title	Afraid to seek help for depression
Author	Feartones
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	March 17, 2021 5:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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