Altering Frame with Good Friends

TheRedPrivilege · 2014-02-11T15:19:34+00:00

Who gives a shit what you look like to them? You sound way too wrapped up in the judgement of your friends, who even you recognize as below you now that you've found TRP. Your material assets and attention are valuable and you shouldn't be giving them away for free. If you're going to let a girl wear your coat then you want to treat it like a shit test. If you've been doing it with these girls for so long that they use you as a door-mat then you want to cut them out of your life and start afresh because once you're in that low SMV zone it becomes that much more difficult getting out.

cantcme13 · 2014-02-12T02:35:25+00:00

I'm in a similar sort of position. I agree with some of the advice posted here but to only to a degree. One character trait I read about alphas in a South American tribe is their ability to catch 'big game'. These alphas would then share their catch not with just their family but with the group as a whole. This was seen as a desirable trait to the females within that group and apparently gets them laid. It happens within western cultures too. Generosity in the right circumstances is demonstrating high value because it demonstrates you're a man of means; e.g. "I donated $10,000 to breast cancer recently.." I do a lot of charity work to broaden my network and meet lot's of new people but I derive holistic pleasure from the act of 'giving'. When I swallowed TRP I realised my motivation for giving was in itself alpha because I was gaining from it. Think of it like a transaction.

Ask yourself; what are you receiving for this act of giving? Then weigh it up as such. For me the social/network opportunities for volunteering outweigh the time/effort outlay I use up so it's a no-brainer. Little things like throwing in for a gift; a friends pleasure for me contributing a tiny amount towards it versus; 3-4 pounds? Not worth the outlay for me so I'd just say tell them I can't afford it. Same with food and shouts. If I get into shouts I'll pay my round (demonstrates means and high value) but I'll always intimate that the shout will be reciprocated. Food's a big one cause I eat like a monster (train hard, eat lean). I usually never pay for food out (I prefer to cook for myself) so when I'm out to dinner I just socialise. Everyone's eating and makes fun of me I just tell them my goals are important to me. Or snicker something like 'little sacrifices for big results.'

Frame is all about attitude. You can give and I encourage it; but only when the return is always in your favour.

Manuel_S · 2014-02-12T20:23:21+00:00

This might help, go in slow.

the keeping high SMV - attitude, and bang some from outside the group. Let them as a group know you got options, you are too invested. The rest stems from this.
the hoodie - ok, what will you do for me if I lend it? Get her to cook something for you to bring when she returns, that puts her in the "servant" role.
the giving stuff - edge off from it. Not contributing to your own is a prime example - don't give in on that. "I care for those who care for me" "but blah blah" "If I give to them, there's less left for my real friends, and is that fair?"

captshady · 2014-02-11T19:55:13+00:00

because my male friends are so BP with their generosity (which is well liked/respected by the girls)

Have any of these girls banged them? If not, it's just verbal words encouraging beta behavior.

You can simply say, "I don't have the kind of finances that you two have, to allow me to be as generous as you two are." If they can't understand that, fuck 'em.

[deleted] · 2014-02-12T09:23:14+00:00

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Title	Altering Frame with Good Friends
Author	bradyo2
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	February 11, 2014 10:48 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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