Saw a girl for about 6 weeks. We got pretty close, spent tons of time together. But early on there was some red flags. She was rude , mood swings, very sketchy and alarming past etc.

The thing is, I never stood up to her and set boundaries. I let her be rude to me usually. Maybe sometimes I’d say “you can’t talk to people like that”. But I never drew lines in the sand and set proper boundaries. Never the less, she ended our fling about 5 weeks in after a pretty nasty argument and disagreement. I said cool. Then a week later she sucked me back in. Then we did it for another week. I gained interest in another plate around this time, and we essentially mutually stopped talking. Nothing was said. Now it’s been 3 weeks of silence and she is reaching out, talking about old times and basically offering to get back into my life.

Now the ball is in my court. Am I stupid to think I could go in and set CLEAR boundaries and expectations as soon as she is rude or disrespectful? And if she moans, I bounce immediately.

I was clearly in her frame the entire time and that may be unfixable. Am I digging through trash? Ultimately from this experience I’ve learned to set boundaries with future woman. I have other plates. But I feel myself getting dragged back in.