Am I doing this right

FereallyRed · 2019-07-30T05:24:33+00:00

Here's some newbie errors I see..

1 - Misread the overarching interaction. A girl doesn't invite you over to her place to study. It's womanese for netflix and chill. Which is a euphemism for knocking boots. Which is a euphemism for fucking. She can't come out and say this because women act covertly because of societal pressures and anti slut defense, but you were basically handed a pass to the pussy.

2 - Escalate. You said light kino. Was it calibrated? Did you push it a bit? did you uses push/pull dynamic to provide some drama/excitement? Dicarlo Escalation and How to escalate.

3 - Never self-deprecate. Flowers and Forges, Never show weakness.,

Iron Rule of Tomassi #9

Never Self-Deprecate under any circumstance. This is a Kiss of Death that you self-initiate and is the antithesis of the Prize Mentality. Once you’ve accepted yourself and presented yourself as a “complete douche” there’s no going back to confidence with a woman. Never appeal to a woman’s sympathies. Her sympathies are given by her own volition, never when they are begged for — women despise the obligation of sympathy. Nothing kills arousal like pity. Even if you don’t seriously consider yourself pathetic, it never serves your best interest to paint yourself as pathetic. Self-Depreciation is a misguided tool for the AFC, and not something that would even occur to an Alpha.

4 - Don't cockblock yourself. You "got not rejections" but decided to stop escalating? Why?

Iron Rule of Tomassi #8

Always let a woman figure out why she wont fuck you, never do it for her.

5 - Take the lead. You're already lagging behind because of your failure to escalate or generate excitement. So now you need to step up. Tell he you're going out with her. Set the time, the venue. Throw a little compliance test in there too for good measure. Run the date. Multiple venues. Have logistics set up for a f-close. Do some work, take the initiative. She already tried to hand you the pussy, and you dropped the ball. So now you need to show her you're still a prize player. Ramp it up.

She opened you. You were in, but you stepped on your own dick. Don't do that again. Go for what you want, it's what she wants too.

lemongrooved · 2019-07-30T05:09:33+00:00

She’s flirting with you. It’s either a test, a game, or a straight up hint but either way its an opportunity. You have to stay in the reins, build her desire by having the presence of being in control. “Win” at flirting by making her more nervous than she makes you. (Nervous excited, not nervous uncomfortable obviously) you fucked up by telling her your sob story about being ugly once, thats bordering the territory of fishing for compliments, like a girl would. unless it was told like some hilarious story, with the sense that you have the awareness that you’re now desireable in an obvious way.

Title	Am I doing this right
Author	YouNeverKnowAnyone
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	July 30, 2019 4:53 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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