When your girlfriend or plate asks you something along the line of "can I see my ex-boyfriend?" or "I'm going to the cinema with this guy, I hope it doesn't bother you" or "should I stopp flirting with other guys?" or "my ex-boyfriend is coming into town tomorrow, I know he wants to fuck me, what do you think, should I see him?", most men are often tempted to tell the girl what to do.

She doesn't gives a fuck. If you say something like "babe, I don't want you to see your ex-boyfriend" or "I don't want you to flirt with other people", you've lost the game.

If she wants to flirt with this guy, she will do it, no matter what you think about it and no matter what you asked her to do. If she wants to see her ex-boyfriend and you don't, she will do it and make sure you know nothing about it. She is testing you. She wants to see if you are going to act like a beta and ask her for commitment or if you will act alpha and say "do whatever you want" because you know you are the shit and that she will come back to you.

Of course, you don't put up with everything. If your grilfriend flirts with a guy and you don't like it, you are free to dump her or to make her a plate. But when she asks you if it bother you, don't show any weakness.

Whatever she agrees to do in front of you, she will do whatever the fuck she wants, whether you agree with that or not. For instance, if she wants to fuck another guy and asks for permission to see him, the fact that you say yes or no doesn't have to do anything with the fact that she wants to fuck this guy. If she wants to do it, she will do it. She just wants to see how you react in order to determine if you are beta or alpha. Of course, if you act live a valuable man, she might turn her mind around and stay with you. Sometimes, she might even make up an entire story to test you. So don't put expectations on girls. Do not expect her to be loyal, not to flirt with other men BUT if she does it, dump her. Just don't state to her that you expect her to behave a certain way and see what happens. As long as she keeps the good attitude that both of you know she is expected to have(because, yeah, she KNOWS flirting with another guy is insulting but she does it either because she has no respect of you either to test you), keep her. As soon as she starts doing things you are not willing to accept, dump her.

I don't put expectation on girls. I do not smother her with rules and "shouldn't". I just let her live the way she wants to live without shaming her and I observe her. Her actions are representative of her level of interest in me and of her level of engagement in our relationship. If she tests me like "does that bother you if I flirt with other men?" "hell no, you do whatever you want" and I observe her. Because her question are just words. But if she then goes around flirting with everyone, it's another story. Because a respectful and interested woman will not do that. Never insist yourself first into the relationship or ask for commitment first. She remains a plate until I see that she is willing to commit herself to the relation AND if I'm ready to do so myself.

I fuck her, I tell her she can do whatever she wants, I observe her and then it's here that I see if she ever will be something more than a plate or not. Until then, no emotionnal investissement, this girl remain a girl I'm used to fuck and in no way a part of my life.

I personnaly don't take bullshit from girls. So yeah, she might be testing me by flirting with other guys in order to watch how I react : am I going to act beta and get angry, tell her to stop or am I going to not give a fuck and go flirt with other girls myself? Anyway, I'm not gonna lie, I don't like it when the girl who is supposed to be my girlfriend flirts with another guy. I know it might just be a test but I just don't put up with this shit so I dump her. If she is a plate, allright, but in a relationship of girlfriend to boyfriend, there is an under-statement that, yeah, she's not supposed to do that and because I'm invested emotionnaly and all in the girl It hurts so I don't put up with that.