Am I safe?

Phyzis · 2016-10-21T00:24:12+00:00

Best you can do is vet well, avoid crazies, get texts/messages/pics together that show that you both had a fun and 'safe' time.

Then you can mitigate any potential charges (not just false rape) by looking good on paper for your community. Help charities, volunteer, organize/attend community events, etc. Pretty much anything that would make a court room deem you a stand-up citizen.

You can also set up a security cam in your entrance and get the girl to hug/kiss/initiate contact with you there if you're really paranoid.

rigbed · 2016-10-21T00:31:20+00:00

Man I'm scared too. Because it happened and thank god it's out of college with my ex gf and not some girl in college, but I don't think I'll be able to get over it anytime soon.

You're not alone, and the fewer words spoken the better. Keep conversations with girls brief and fun, and do it with many women. Don't be like me and avoid them because I'll either be misogynistic or a sperg if I talk to one, and I'm not taking that chance.

Take them to a cafeteria asap after you bang them or have something tasty for them to eat afterwards. Photo and text to get evidence that she doesn't regret it.

fnordsnord · 2016-10-21T14:42:36+00:00

You are never safe from rape accusations. Ever. They are far less likely if you are celibate, but there are cases on record where a woman was assaulted and accused an involved third party because she was under pressure to name someone, and the ACTUAL rapist was too threatening, and the third party was not threatening at all.

It can happen to anybody. All you can do is vet your partners carefully and take a few other precautions.

Here's my take: 1) Do not mess with a girl who has a boyfriend or a husband. Even if she's stone-cold sober and into it at the time, once she's done the deed, she has to justify it in her mind. Not wanting to see herself as a cheat whore, "he seduced me; I didn't mean to do it" is a good starting point, but from there it's a short hop to "he raped me; I didn't want to do it."

2) Avoid girls who still live at home. A girl who lives under her parents financial thumb is far more likely to go the "I'm a good girl; he made me do it" route than one who is not dependent on her mom and dad's approval for a place to live and food to eat.

3) Do not make a woman with a significantly higher SMV than you have to admit she slept with you. This is not an issue of you are a star athlete, musician, or movie star. But if your normal hunting grounds are around a 6, and you managed a 9 because you were just "on" that night, don't make her feel the need to deny you in the cold light of Monday morning.

4) Don't do a gangbang, ever. Again, even if she's TOTALLY into it at the time and stone cold sober, how would she ever justify it to friends, parents, or feminist professors. "They made me do it" is a perfect emotional out.

5) Okay - this is a tough one. Telling you not to drink and bang is a waste of my time. But women do reach a point of drunkenness where they cannot legally consent, and seeing this point is hard.They are also far more likely to experience after-the-fact regret than men. These two factors lead to more regret rape than any other factors. Since I can't convince you not to drink and bang, how 'bout if you at least don't bang women who are stone blind paralytic drunk?

6) Don't date Social Justice Warriors, no matter how sex-positive they claim to be. If you are out on the town and your companion starts spouting feminist theory or other male-negative themes, smile, nod, and then claim you have to work tomorrow and end the date.

7) Text the next day. Do not be explicit, but say something like "I had a GREAT time last night. I hope you did, too. See you soon?" This will almost certainly elicit a positive response from her. Save it. You may need it later.

8) Take her to breakfast the next day, in public. Keep the receipt and make a note of the waiter's name. You might need a witness.

9) Do not apologize if she calls you and talks about how "what happened was wrong" and she "feels weird." She may be baiting you into admitting wrongdoing. Stick with, "It's a shame we live in such an uptight society that makes you feel that way. We had a great time last night."

I realize that I sound paranoid and that if you followed these rules absolutely, all the time, you'd never get laid. But keep them in mind.

And lastly, if you are EVER contacted by the police, you need a lawyer.

Title	Am I safe?
Author	unknown4534
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	October 21, 2016 12:17 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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