Tried searching here and the main sub for posts covering this subject, but there's not really anything on my issue specifically, and very little overall.

The last time I was with a girl, I had some performance anxiety problems. I think this stems from some insecurity about myself as being sexually attractive. I want to be wanted, and to be fucking a girl well and making her feel good. I get off in an empathetic way. (Not sure how to change this, either. I want to be able to turn that off and just fuck for me.)

I don't think my anxiety has any basis in fact, and is just in my head. I was fairly sure of it at the time as well, but I still felt adrenaline pouring through my body and making me anxious.

I was able to recover after the pressure of performance went away, got hard again, and went back for round two, but after a while it all came back and I wasn't able to finish.

Has anyone else experienced this? I've quit porn, I re-sensitized from years of death grip, and I don't have any problems getting aroused, just this intrusive negative thought and feeling spiral that interrupts me.

It might go away on its own with more sexual experience, but I would appreciate any advice that might accelerate that.