Approach Rejection

machimus · 2015-11-24T19:31:03+00:00

I've been cold approaching girls at the bars for 3 weeks now.

Good, that takes balls. I like...balls...

Only one of the six girls was attractive enough to warrant my introduction.

Oh well excuuuuse me, I didn't know we had royalty here. Are you already slaying so much pussy you don't even have time to talk to the peasant girls? No? Ok then.

I introduced myself and asked why 3 of them were wearing sweatshirts at a bar (I just talk about the first thing that comes to mind). They started shit testing me hard after that. Beginning with asking if my mom dresses me.

You bluffed with a neg and couldn't back it up when they called you out on it. Always have a backup plan. Unless the girls are exceptionally dumb or insecure, this would rarely work. Besides, what wearing a sweatshirt out to a bar says is they don't give a fuck what you think of them wearing sweatshirts to a bar. You walked right into that one.

Beginning with asking if my mom dresses me.

Good comeback. You might as well laugh and say "fair enough" at this point, because if you were laughing because you thought you were owning them, you were wrong and that was obvious. Then, clearly you failed the rest of them because they literally shoved you out of the group.

I know for a fact that my SMV is higher than any one of those girls.

Doesn't matter if your SMV is higher than theirs. It's not "whoever has the highest SMV wins". What matters is if your SMV is higher than other guys they could get. Remember the exchange rate.

OmLaLa · 2015-11-24T19:01:53+00:00

Only one of the six girls was attractive enough to warrant my introduction.

This is a bit douchey.

I introduced myself and asked why 3 of them were wearing sweatshirts at a bar

This is a bit douchey and PUA-y.

The shit tests continued until they physically pushed me out of the group.

This wasn't a "failed shit test". You were just kinda being a douche. Don't mistake being an asshole with being a douche. One is forced, the other just is.

I know for a fact that my SMV is higher than any one of those girls.

Oh? How do you know for sure?

Their perception of your SMV is what matters, not by some objective, universal definition. Even positive traits are weighed at different levels of positivity depending on the individual perceiving them. This is where "preference" comes into play.

Did I play the game wrong in that situation?

Yes. You were a douche.

But more to the point, you forced your negging way too hard and in the presence of multiple women, so all of their ASD kicked in at once and they all labeled you a douche.

Or do I just need more practice before trying to approach groups?

When you play to a group, you have to play them all equally, no matter which one's hot and which one's not. That'll remove the ASD you just came across.

Title	Approach Rejection
Author	DrPepprr
Upvotes	8
Comments	8
Date	November 24, 2015 6:36 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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